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12:05:21 |
Webmama_Tina |
Join Dr. Neustaedter for a chat on
Learning Styles and Children's
Development. Bring your questions
regarding child development, individual
learning styles, appropriate enrichment
of children's unique talents and
opportunities, managing the school
process, and positive approaches to
learning problems. |
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12:05:27 |
Webmama_Tina |
hold on net |
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12:05:39 |
net-or-ilovemy2ds |
i think I asked the wrong ? lol |
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12:05:46 |
Webmama_Tina |
dr did you want to add anything? |
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12:05:47 |
Webmama_Tina |
:) |
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12:06:11 |
alynda |
? |
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12:06:19 |
RandallNeustaedter |
I am also happy to include how attention
and learning interact. |
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12:06:50 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok, net do you have our first question? |
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12:07:10 |
net-or-ilovemy2ds |
i did but not the right topic lol |
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12:07:10 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Last time we talked about ADHD so these
two areas really synchronize. |
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12:07:29 |
Webmama_Tina |
do you have one on topic? |
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12:07:43 |
Webmama_Tina |
upcoming chatters (after net): alynda |
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12:07:45 |
laurasb26 |
? |
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12:07:48 |
net-or-ilovemy2ds |
not at the moment |
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12:08:03 |
Webmama_Tina |
lol ok, alynda? |
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12:08:28 |
RandallNeustaedter |
I will try to get everyone's questions
addressed, then we can go back with more
detail if there is time and we need more
discussion. |
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12:08:56 |
Webmama_Tina |
upcoming chatters: alynda laurasb26 |
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12:09:07 |
laurasb26 |
Dr. Randall i was wondering about the
struggle that all mothers have between
decidying to stay home at taking them to
nursery. What are your thoguths |
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12:09:14 |
alynda |
my son is 15 months old, and plays with
toysfor only moments at a time, going
from one thing to another very
quickly...could he have an attention
problem, or is this normal for his age? |
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12:09:32 |
Webmama_Tina |
laura, its alynda's turn first |
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12:09:48 |
laurasb26 |
sorry, i misunderstood your message :) |
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12:09:50 |
Webmama_Tina |
dr, if you could address alynda's
question, and then we'll get to
laura's...help keep things on track. :) |
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12:09:58 |
Webmama_Tina |
no worries :) |
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12:09:59 |
Webmama_Tina |
it happens |
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12:10:26 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Normal babies at this age have a very
short attention span and they move from
one activity to another. |
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12:11:16 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Some parents experience that a new toy
lasts for about 90 seconds, especially
in really intelligent babies. They learn
about it, master it, then they are off
to something that attracts their
interest. |
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12:11:29 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Not to worry. Enjoy your energetic and
exploring baby. |
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12:11:44 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Attention problems are way, way
overstated. |
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12:12:01 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Babies do not have attention problems. |
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12:12:09 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Does that answer it? |
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12:12:24 |
alynda |
yes, thanks |
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12:12:29 |
RandallNeustaedter |
next |
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12:12:42 |
Webmama_Tina |
laura, your turn now |
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12:12:50 |
laurasb26 |
ok, |
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12:13:08 |
laurasb26 |
sorry the question is above and i can't
copy it |
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12:13:15 |
RandallNeustaedter |
The daycare issue is huge. What age? |
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12:13:29 |
laurasb26 |
i just wanted to find out the learning
plus and minus from nurseries and
staying home |
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12:13:33 |
laurasb26 |
well now 1 |
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12:13:44 |
Webmama_Tina |
to copy/paste you have to click the copy
content button in the toolbar above
where you type |
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12:14:12 |
RandallNeustaedter |
OK a 1 year old does not need to learn
social skills, so there is no reason
that your baby cannot get everything she
needs at home with you. |
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12:14:33 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Gymboree type sessions are fun, but they
are not necessary. |
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12:14:39 |
laurasb26 |
yes, very social, goes to swimming and
other play groups. |
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12:14:52 |
RandallNeustaedter |
They may however give you some ideas. |
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12:15:01 |
laurasb26 |
so in terms of socializing no need. does
he not get too attached to mom? |
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12:15:28 |
Webmama_Tina |
playgroups are more for the moms at that
age, aren't they dr? |
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12:15:37 |
Webmama_Tina |
:) |
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12:15:46 |
RandallNeustaedter |
I am just happy that you have the
freedom to stay home with your baby.
Other moms agonize over this issue of
leaving their babies to someone else's
care. |
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12:16:18 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Attachment to mom and dad is the goal of
attachment parenting folks. It makes for
secure, confident children. |
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12:16:51 |
RandallNeustaedter |
At 2 1/2 or at least 3 it is very
helpful for toddlers to have experience
with socializing. |
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12:16:59 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Does that answer it? |
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12:17:04 |
laurasb26 |
yes indeed, very fortunate to stay home.
thank you you confirmed my insights |
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12:17:13 |
RandallNeustaedter |
next |
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12:17:28 |
Webmama_Tina |
i don't currently have anyone else in
queue...anyone have a question for the
doctor? |
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12:17:40 |
alynda |
? |
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12:17:47 |
Webmama_Tina |
we're talking child development and
learning styles today |
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12:17:52 |
Webmama_Tina |
go for it alynda |
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12:18:00 |
pyxiwulf |
? |
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12:18:41 |
Webmama_Tina |
pyxiwulf, you're after alynda |
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12:18:46 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Don't worry I can start expounding too
and bring up issues for everyone. |
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12:18:55 |
alynda |
regarding attachment..my 15 mo ds isn't
handling short separations well; he's
been ap'd by my husband and I since
birth, but I do work PT out of the home,
and he isn't doing well with it...clingy
and fussy. again, is it the age? my mom
thinks |
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12:19:18 |
alynda |
I ap'd him wrong", and made him 'too
attached'" |
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12:19:58 |
RandallNeustaedter |
There is no such thing as too attached
at this age. |
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12:20:12 |
net-or-ilovemy2ds |
? |
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12:20:38 |
laurasb26 |
? |
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12:20:40 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Babies at this age are just that.
Attached, not really ready for
separation even though it is necessary
at times. |
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12:21:17 |
RandallNeustaedter |
when babies and toddlers start
developing language skills they tend to
become wary and anxious of strangers |
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12:21:32 |
alynda |
would it make sense to curtail the time
I spend away from him, until he is
better able to handle it, or try to make
it as easy a spossible for him as he
adjusts to it? the P/T job doesn't pay
enough that I want to risk his
development on it |
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12:21:47 |
ourwiefamily |
? |
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12:21:48 |
Webmama_Tina |
upcoming chatters: pyxiwulf
net-or-ilovemy2ds laurasb26 |
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12:21:49 |
willsmum |
? |
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12:22:24 |
Webmama_Tina |
upcoming chatters: pyxiwulf
net-or-ilovemy2ds laurasb26
ourwiefamily willsmum |
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12:22:38 |
RandallNeustaedter |
This is usually due to their familiarity
with the parents' ways of interacting
with them and other styles of
interacting and language/facial
expression/body language are unfamiliar.
They develop into more security with it
as they gain experience. |
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12:23:24 |
RandallNeustaedter |
This will not impair his development.
The best scenario is for you and him to
spend time with the other caregiver
until he is more secure. |
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12:23:53 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Sooner or later he will become more able
to stay on his own, even if he still has
problems separating. |
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12:24:13 |
alynda |
thank you |
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12:24:27 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok pyxi, you're up |
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12:24:36 |
Webmama_Tina |
upcoming chatters: pyxiwulf
net-or-ilovemy2ds laurasb26
ourwiefamily willsmum |
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12:24:40 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Familiarity is usually the key. The
timeframe depends on his temperament and
how shy/withdrawing/introverted he is. |
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12:24:44 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Does that help? |
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12:25:14 |
RandallNeustaedter |
next |
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12:26:07 |
pyxiwulf |
., what can we do to |
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12:26:45 |
pyxiwulf |
my 65 yrd old has never practiced her
skills, this has made th traditional
school setting difficult, what can we do
to accomodate her? |
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12:26:52 |
pyxiwulf |
make that 5 yr old |
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12:27:30 |
Webmama_Tina |
social skills you mean? |
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12:27:33 |
RandallNeustaedter |
By skills I assume you mean alphabet and
numbers? |
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12:27:43 |
Webmama_Tina |
oh, or that, lol |
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12:27:56 |
pyxiwulf |
all types, motor and academic |
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12:28:45 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Children practice motor skills on their
own. If she is having gross motor skill
problems at this age, then that is truly
a problem. |
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12:29:03 |
RandallNeustaedter |
If you mean she doesn't draw accurately,
then that is not a problem at this age. |
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12:29:25 |
Webmama_Tina |
change to queue--upcoming chatters:
ourwiefamily, laurasb26,
net-or-ilovemy2ds, willsmum |
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12:29:56 |
RandallNeustaedter |
I personally feel that children are
hurried" in our culture. Of course the
Waldorf philosophy does not introduce
academics or worksheets at this age." |
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12:30:08 |
pyxiwulf |
I told ourwiefamily she could jump me, I
need to reword my ? |
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12:30:28 |
Webmama_Tina |
oh ok, i thought she was swapping w/net |
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12:30:39 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok go for it karla |
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12:30:43 |
ourwiefamily |
We just had a new baby (6wo). My 21mo
dd is feeling displaced, I think. She
alternates between loving on him and
attacking him. I'm giving her special
focussed times during the day and trying
to emphasize the times she is positive
w/ baby. |
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12:30:55 |
ourwiefamily |
but how should I react right after she
does something mean to baby? |
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12:31:06 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Most children catch up in K and beyond.
The teacher should be able to assess
whether there is a problem. |
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12:31:17 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Are we done with the 5 year old issue? |
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12:31:39 |
laurasb26 |
Webmama_Tina sorry tina, i have to feed
my boy. if i make it later i will ask
the question. thank you. |
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12:31:52 |
Webmama_Tina |
i think she wanted to reword it..ourwie
has to leave soon so asked to jump ahead |
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12:32:02 |
mayjo |
? |
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12:32:02 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok |
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12:32:16 |
RandallNeustaedter |
OK a 2 year old is likely to feel
jealous. That is normal. |
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12:32:34 |
ourwiefamily |
yes. I'm just not sure how to react
when she bites him or scratches |
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12:32:41 |
RandallNeustaedter |
The analogy is your husband says we are
bringing home a new wife and we will
love her as much as you. |
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12:33:12 |
RandallNeustaedter |
At this age children do not retain the
memory of being the only child. That is
why this spacing works so well. |
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12:33:15 |
Webmama_Tina |
upcoming chatters: pyxiwulf,
net-or-ilovemy2ds, willsmum, mayjo |
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12:33:18 |
RandallNeustaedter |
This faze will pass. |
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12:33:25 |
Webmama_Tina |
(after ourwie) |
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12:33:42 |
ourwiefamily |
i should clarify and say this is our 7th
child but never had this level of
rivalry .... so should I just hang in
here and hope it will pass? |
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12:34:01 |
RandallNeustaedter |
If she can have special time with
grandma or other adult friends and
family then that will go a long way to
keeping her aware that she is still the
center of the universe. |
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12:34:18 |
Webmama_Tina |
i think ourwie would like a specific
example of how to react when an incident
happens |
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12:34:29 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Again, this is probably a temperament
issue with her and it will pass. |
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12:34:29 |
Webmama_Tina |
is that right karla? |
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12:34:48 |
RandallNeustaedter |
By the time you have 7, OMG, you should
be the expert doing this chat. |
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12:34:49 |
ourwiefamily |
yes :) it is. I don't want to make
their relationship more negative by
reacting harshly to her |
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12:34:58 |
Webmama_Tina |
LOL |
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12:35:02 |
ourwiefamily |
I worry it would reinforce that she is
displaced, yk? |
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12:35:19 |
ourwiefamily |
but I don't think I should ignore it
either |
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12:35:23 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Don't react harshly. Just separate her
from the situation if she is getting too
frisky. |
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12:35:27 |
ourwiefamily |
lol ... well I'm not an expert |
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12:35:41 |
RandallNeustaedter |
It sounds like over-exuberance too. Not
to worry. |
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12:35:53 |
RandallNeustaedter |
All moms are experts at their own
children. |
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12:36:35 |
RandallNeustaedter |
No one knows your baby better than you.
Trust your intuition. It is there for a
really good reason. |
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12:36:42 |
RandallNeustaedter |
next |
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12:36:46 |
Webmama_Tina |
upcoming chatters: pyxiwulf,
net-or-ilovemy2ds, willsmum, mayjo,
Webmama_Tina |
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12:36:55 |
ourwiefamily |
thanks ... not sure why I need to hear
that over and over again, but it's true!
:) |
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12:37:02 |
pyxiwulf |
the 5 yr old has always just done things
without allowing us to see her practice,
example: she never said mama or the
like, but all of a sudden could speak
clearly." |
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12:37:02 |
Webmama_Tina |
pyxi, you ready again? |
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12:37:16 |
Webmama_Tina |
woops |
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12:37:22 |
Webmama_Tina |
you beat me, lol |
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12:37:29 |
pyxiwulf |
now that she has homework, we have
problems because she does not like to
practice per say |
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12:37:52 |
pyxiwulf |
we don't know how to make the
traditional school setting work for her |
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12:38:16 |
littlebird |
? |
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12:38:28 |
Webmama_Tina |
upcoming chatters: (after pyxiwulf)
net-or-ilovemy2ds, willsmum, mayjo,
Webmama_Tina, littlebird |
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12:38:41 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Lots of kids wait until they feel
confident before they show you they can
do something. A typical example is two
year olds who start talking in full
sentences without previously uttering a
word. |
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12:38:54 |
pyxiwulf |
that's exactly her! |
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12:39:01 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Homework for a 5 year old is really not
appropriate. |
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12:39:13 |
RandallNeustaedter |
I would have a conversation with the
teacher about her style. |
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12:39:38 |
RandallNeustaedter |
And keep communicating with teachers
about your child's individual learning
style all through the academic years. |
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12:39:54 |
RandallNeustaedter |
You know your child. How they learn and
experience the world. The teacher does
not. |
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12:40:29 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Every teacher should welcome your
insights and experience to make the
learning process in school as successful
for your child as possible. |
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12:40:44 |
RandallNeustaedter |
does that answer it? |
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12:40:50 |
Webmama_Tina |
upcoming chatters: (after pyxiwulf)
net-or-ilovemy2ds, willsmum, mayjo,
Webmama_Tina, littlebird |
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12:40:53 |
pyxiwulf |
I guess I knew that, thank you for the
reassurance :) |
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12:41:09 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Of course you know it. |
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12:41:13 |
laurasb26 |
? |
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12:41:41 |
RandallNeustaedter |
I think lots of communication with the
teacher and school is often the best
tool to making it go smoothly. |
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12:42:08 |
RandallNeustaedter |
next |
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12:42:10 |
net-or-ilovemy2ds |
10 months ago my 2nd ds was born and we
had to stay in the NICU in a diff town
for a couple days, my DS 5yo was very
clingy after just going outside with out
him cause an emotional break down, he's
a bit better now but still quite clingy,
should he be over |
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12:42:43 |
net-or-ilovemy2ds |
this by now?, he use to be really
excited about starting school now he
just wants to stay home with me |
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12:43:08 |
RandallNeustaedter |
It all sounds very confusing for him. |
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12:43:12 |
net-or-ilovemy2ds |
and be with me ALL the time |
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12:43:15 |
Webmama_Tina |
upcoming chatters: (after
net-or-ilovemy2ds), willsmum, mayjo,
Webmama_Tina, littlebird, laurasb26 |
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12:43:33 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Talk to the teacher about staying in the
classroom because of this scary time for
him. |
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12:43:40 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Is that possible for you? |
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12:43:58 |
net-or-ilovemy2ds |
even after almost a year(it will be a
year when he starts school) |
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12:44:02 |
net-or-ilovemy2ds |
yes |
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12:44:24 |
RandallNeustaedter |
I am a big fan of clinginess. |
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12:44:38 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Kids need to cling to parents. |
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12:44:50 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Its a scary place out there with lots of
stimulation. |
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12:45:03 |
net-or-ilovemy2ds |
and I guess me working odd shifts and
never being home before baby was hard
for him too |
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12:45:21 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Most of us do not live on ranches with
animals and nature and a slow pace. |
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12:45:30 |
net-or-ilovemy2ds |
lol |
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12:45:49 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Children are fragile at this age and
need lots of love and support. |
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12:46:22 |
RandallNeustaedter |
He will get over this. If he doesn't
then develop a plan with the teacher. |
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12:46:24 |
Webmama_Tina |
oh what i wouldn't give for a ranch with
nature and animals! *sigh* |
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12:46:26 |
RandallNeustaedter |
next |
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12:46:33 |
net-or-ilovemy2ds |
thanks |
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12:46:33 |
Webmama_Tina |
upcoming chatters: willsmum, mayjo,
Webmama_Tina, littlebird, laurasb26 |
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12:46:40 |
willsmum |
I have a 9 m old ds. When he was born, I
was really struggling with him as he
hardly ever slept, so we spent most of
our time in the family room with the TV
on. Have I screwed him up
developmentally or caused ADD?? Or just
being overly cautious? |
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12:47:02 |
willsmum |
Sorry if its a dumb question but I'm
quite concerned |
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12:47:47 |
RandallNeustaedter |
TV exposure is a big topic. I don't
recommend it for babies, but I don't
think you have created an addict yet. |
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12:48:00 |
RandallNeustaedter |
If you stop now, I think everything will
be fine. |
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12:48:27 |
RandallNeustaedter |
It is a valid concern. But I wouldn't
worry about it. |
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12:48:41 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Just your awareness of the issue is more
than most. |
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12:48:57 |
RandallNeustaedter |
You know Baby Einstein is being sued for
misleading claims! |
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12:49:13 |
RandallNeustaedter |
next |
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12:50:00 |
mayjo |
My daughter has turned 3yrs & she speaks
maybe 30 words & a couple 2 word
sentences. She seems to understand
everything. We don't live near
family/friend, recent separation..
Should I be worried & what do you think
of speech therapists? |
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12:51:15 |
Webmama_Tina |
upcoming chatters: (after mayjo),
Webmama_Tina, littlebird, laurasb26 |
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12:51:30 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Sorry I was just looking this up. If you
go to this link there is a full
discussion of language delays |
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12:52:20 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Well I can't get the copy command to
work. Just go to my website at
www.cure-guide.com and search for
language delay. |
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12:52:36 |
mayjo |
thanks |
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12:52:58 |
RandallNeustaedter |
You may want to have her assessed. The
school district is required to do this
for free. Take advantage of that. |
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12:53:01 |
Webmama_Tina |
click on the copy content button |
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12:53:11 |
Webmama_Tina |
its in the toolbar above where you
type... |
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12:53:16 |
Webmama_Tina |
oh wait, you just need to paste, right? |
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12:53:19 |
Webmama_Tina |
ctrl v |
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12:53:41 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Speech therapists are usually very
qualified to handle this.
http://www.cure-guide.com/Child_Health_Guide/Language_Delays/language_delays.html |
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12:53:49 |
RandallNeustaedter |
there that's the link |
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12:53:50 |
Webmama_Tina |
the right click options don't work in
here because they have specific ones for
the chat, so you have to know the hot
keys...ctrl c is copy, ctrl v is paste |
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12:53:52 |
Webmama_Tina |
:) |
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12:53:57 |
RandallNeustaedter |
thanks Tina |
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12:53:59 |
Webmama_Tina |
sure thing |
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12:54:26 |
Webmama_Tina |
we have 6 min left in the chat...mayjo,
was your question answered? |
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12:54:29 |
RandallNeustaedter |
next |
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12:54:35 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok, my turn! :) |
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12:54:46 |
mayjo |
yes & she is getting assessed |
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12:54:49 |
Webmama_Tina |
my daughter is now 5.5yrs old and has a
major attitude... |
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12:55:04 |
Webmama_Tina |
never really had this til around
5...she'll be 6 in nov |
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12:55:08 |
Webmama_Tina |
is this normal for this age? |
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12:55:19 |
Webmama_Tina |
i mean she's mouthy and defiant and
she's just so nasty sometimes |
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12:55:34 |
RandallNeustaedter |
yes this is normal for preteens |
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12:55:45 |
Webmama_Tina |
oh its infuriating! 5yrs is preteen? |
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12:56:12 |
RandallNeustaedter |
just kidding. Children need to express
their independence. |
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12:56:20 |
Webmama_Tina |
i'm not sure how to deal with her
because i don't believe in
punishment...although i do believe in
consequences...but its hard sometimes to
find an appropriate consequence for
nastiness |
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12:56:33 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Often this manifests as rebellious
behavior. |
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12:56:52 |
RandallNeustaedter |
I don't think punishment is appropriate
for children. |
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12:57:19 |
Webmama_Tina |
yes she's rebellious and mouthy and
sassy and very difficult to get to
listen sometimes...she's not like this
all the time luckily, but when she is it
just makes me bang my head into a wall |
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12:57:25 |
Webmama_Tina |
yes i agree...i don't believe in
punishment |
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12:57:38 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Consequences are nice if you can do it
or think of one that is not punishment,
like we can't go play if you don't put
on your clothes. |
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12:57:46 |
RandallNeustaedter |
But that is often a punishment for
parents. |
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12:58:03 |
Webmama_Tina |
consequences like logical consequences i
do use...like if she chooses not to eat,
she just goes hungry because i'm not
going to fix her a whole 'nother
meal...yes, exactly |
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12:58:12 |
RandallNeustaedter |
There are some very good scenarios you
can practice with her. |
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12:58:36 |
Webmama_Tina |
its difficult to come up with logical
consequences for mouthiness that don't
feel like punishmetns |
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12:58:38 |
RandallNeustaedter |
I fix whole other meals for my 5 year
old. Am I bad? |
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12:59:07 |
Webmama_Tina |
lol, well that's a whole nother story
for me...she's a super picky eater and
won't eat what she picked out
sometimes....another story for another
day....LOL |
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12:59:30 |
RandallNeustaedter |
The scenarios include showing her what
you expect in different situations. |
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12:59:46 |
RandallNeustaedter |
There are some good books about this for
kids this age. |
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12:59:58 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Send me an email and I will get you the
references. |
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13:00:04 |
RandallNeustaedter |
I think this will help. |
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13:00:37 |
RandallNeustaedter |
My 5 yr old son has taken a social
skills class for his age that really
helps give him some alternative language
choices. |
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13:00:43 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok thanks! i appreciate it! i'm banging
my head against the wall and yelling
entirely too much...i hate that i'm
getting reduced to yelling! i need some
alternatives! |
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13:00:49 |
RandallNeustaedter |
other ? |
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13:00:57 |
Webmama_Tina |
upcoming chatters: littlebird,
laurasb26 |
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13:00:59 |
littlebird |
My 9 year old gets very annoyed with her
younger sisters (she especially hates
singing) and is hard to manage. She
does better when she has special
activities to do, but sometimes it seems
she shouldn't deserve them... |
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13:01:03 |
littlebird |
Especially since she has expensive
interests (horseback riding). I hate to
deny her special things as well. Any
ideas? |
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13:01:17 |
littlebird |
All are homeschooled: 9, 6, 4, and
baby. Oh, and we have lots of
animals, nature, and a pretty slow pace
around here! |
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13:01:52 |
RandallNeustaedter |
I believe in children becoming experts
at what they love. |
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13:02:09 |
littlebird |
Yes, I agree and it is a big part of our
homeschooling |
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13:02:12 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Allowing older children to pursue their
interests is often the answer. |
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13:02:20 |
RandallNeustaedter |
And teaching the younger kids. |
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13:02:26 |
RandallNeustaedter |
You have your hands full. |
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13:02:28 |
littlebird |
I just want to see her reciprocating
with the rest of us |
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13:02:36 |
littlebird |
Being poite, helpful, etc |
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13:03:04 |
RandallNeustaedter |
And I assume your 9yo feels very
responsible for the younger kids and
probably resentful about being the 2nd
mommy at times. |
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13:03:09 |
RandallNeustaedter |
I would be frustrated too. |
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13:03:16 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Allow her to express her feelings. |
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13:03:31 |
littlebird |
She is REALLY not a mommy type! My 6
year old is more the 2nd mommy! |
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13:03:33 |
RandallNeustaedter |
And talk about them in a meeting when
she is not acting out. |
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13:03:47 |
littlebird |
The oldest is very self centered |
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13:03:58 |
littlebird |
Star material at best, selfish at worst! |
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13:04:20 |
littlebird |
YEs, I do think we need to have a talk.
My husband gets through to her the best |
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13:04:20 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Capitalize on her self-centeredness. She
is just coming into her own. |
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13:04:45 |
littlebird |
Talking here has given me some clarity,
though |
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13:04:50 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Let her shine at what she loves and she
should become more confident. |
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13:05:15 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Don't get stuck in a big struggle with
her at this age. She will develop out of
this. |
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13:05:31 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Or stay self-centered. The world needs
that type too. |
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13:05:37 |
littlebird |
I hope so. She has always been a
handful. She is just very intense |
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13:05:44 |
RandallNeustaedter |
One more and I need to go. |
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13:05:49 |
littlebird |
BUt has so much potential. |
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13:05:58 |
littlebird |
Thank you@ |
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13:06:34 |
Webmama_Tina |
oh wow, got sidetracked by waking baby
and phone...we are overtime, sorry dr! |
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13:06:52 |
Webmama_Tina |
do you have time for laura's last
question? |
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13:06:59 |
RandallNeustaedter |
sure |
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13:07:01 |
Webmama_Tina |
she was the last in queue |
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13:07:03 |
laurasb26 |
btw, and out of the subject, have you
thought of writing a book on this
subject? :) do you have any thoughts
on the Montessori method and in regards
to language, speaking 2 languages at
home, and english is not one of them.
should we reconsider? |
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13:08:03 |
RandallNeustaedter |
I love Montessori as long as it is not
overly structured for the individual
child. |
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13:08:28 |
RandallNeustaedter |
My book Child Health Guide discusses
many of these issues. |
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13:08:46 |
RandallNeustaedter |
I recommend all the books by Mel Levine
about these issues too. |
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13:09:27 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Better learn 3 languages. Kids can
handle many languages and discern who
needs which in their conversations. |
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13:09:34 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Got ot go folks. |
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13:09:43 |
laurasb26 |
thank you |
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13:09:44 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Great to be with you as always. |
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13:09:48 |
mommy_05 |
hello. my name is stephanie and i am new
to this. |
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13:10:06 |
Webmama_Tina |
by dr, thank you! |
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13:10:10 |
RandallNeustaedter |
I am open to questions by email as well
through my website at www.cure-guide.com |
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13:10:10 |
Webmama_Tina |
you were wonderful, as always! |
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13:10:20 |
Webmama_Tina |
can you post your email again dr? |
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13:10:30 |
RandallNeustaedter |
randalln@cure-guide.com |
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13:10:38 |
Webmama_Tina |
mommy_05, we are just finishing this
week's mothering mag sponsored chat |
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13:10:48 |
Webmama_Tina |
but stick around because there's always
casual chatting here! |
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13:10:50 |
RandallNeustaedter |
And don't forget to subscribe to my
newsletter if you arent already. |
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13:10:58 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok dr, thank you! |
