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19:58:31 |
Mom2Ethan |
hello? |
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20:04:58 |
MyBabyandMore |
hello |
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20:05:07 |
MyBabyandMore |
sorry it took me a few minutes |
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20:05:22 |
MyBabyandMore |
I had trouble logging in |
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20:05:32 |
MyBabyandMore |
have you been waiting long? |
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20:05:47 |
Mom2Ethan |
hi |
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20:05:54 |
Mom2Ethan |
no |
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20:06:00 |
Mom2Ethan |
I have a ? |
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20:06:06 |
MyBabyandMore |
ok |
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20:06:23 |
MyBabyandMore |
usually I like to start by introducing
myself |
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20:07:07 |
MyBabyandMore |
but let's just jump in |
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20:07:14 |
Mom2Ethan |
How do you get a 2year old to listen?? |
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20:07:19 |
MyBabyandMore |
lol |
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20:07:28 |
MyBabyandMore |
I kwym |
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20:07:36 |
MyBabyandMore |
I have a almost 3 year old |
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20:08:20 |
MyBabyandMore |
what are you specifically trying to get
your toddler to do? |
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20:08:35 |
Mom2Ethan |
anything!! |
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20:09:41 |
MyBabyandMore |
lol |
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20:10:25 |
MyBabyandMore |
well, there are several ways you can
help, is it Ethan, to cooperate |
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20:10:30 |
Mom2Ethan |
yes Ethan |
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20:12:38 |
MyBabyandMore |
You could sing songs to guide him
through transitions. Like the well know
Clean Up" Song that Barney does.
Repition is very important to toddlers
and helps them feel safe" |
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20:12:53 |
Mom2Ethan |
we do that |
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20:14:17 |
MyBabyandMore |
ok so does he clean up when you sing? |
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20:14:26 |
Mom2Ethan |
yes sometrimes |
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20:14:38 |
MyBabyandMore |
well, that is good! |
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20:15:32 |
MyBabyandMore |
so what, more specifically, are you
trying to accomplish? |
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20:16:12 |
Mom2Ethan |
he throws tempertantrums when I ske him
to get dressed, eat, take a bath |
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20:16:32 |
MyBabyandMore |
ok |
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20:20:34 |
Mom2Ethan |
he fights me on everything!! |
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20:20:42 |
MyBabyandMore |
The first thing you want to do is break
the tension. The best way to do that, as
easy as it may seem, is to be silly. It
will catch him off guard and it will
help reduce the stress level of the
room. For example, if he won't let you
put his shirt on then |
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20:21:00 |
MyBabyandMore |
sorry |
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20:21:25 |
MyBabyandMore |
then you make a big tadoo over putting
his shirt on - on YOU |
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20:21:48 |
Mom2Ethan |
then what? |
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20:24:04 |
MyBabyandMore |
The important thing to remember is that
you want to take the focus away from the
fight" and onto something else more
pleasant. I don't know anyone who won't
even crack a smile when they hear a
seriously funny joke." |
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20:24:33 |
MyBabyandMore |
It's hard to keep a staight face when
Mommy is trying to put her leg in your
pants. |
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20:24:46 |
Mom2Ethan |
ok I'll try that |
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20:25:42 |
MyBabyandMore |
Once you get Ethan calmer then you can
try other tactice to get the task
accomplished You can offer him two
choices Do you want to wear the red
shirt or the blue shirt?"" |
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20:25:56 |
Mom2Ethan |
ok |
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20:27:16 |
MyBabyandMore |
By giving him more control" you are
untimately getting control of the
situation I recommend letting children
have as much choice in their day as
possible It makes them feel good about
them selves because they get to make
their own coices Even if we are" |
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20:27:47 |
MyBabyandMore |
in control of these choices :) |
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20:27:55 |
Mom2Ethan |
ok thanks |
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20:28:04 |
Mom2Ethan |
that might work |
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20:28:11 |
Mom2Ethan |
It c't hurt to try |
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20:28:34 |
Mom2Ethan |
what about bathtime? He hates his bath! |
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20:29:26 |
MyBabyandMore |
Don't bathe him then! |
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20:29:32 |
MyBabyandMore |
lol Just kidding! |
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20:31:10 |
MyBabyandMore |
Seriously, if this is a huge deal, one
of the things I recommend to my clients
is to choose your battles". I'm sure you
have heard this before . . ." |
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20:31:14 |
Mom2Ethan |
yes |
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20:32:20 |
MyBabyandMore |
If you are used to bathing him every
night, it won't hurt him to go every
other night. |
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20:33:34 |
Mom2Ethan |
ok |
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20:33:37 |
Mom2Ethan |
ty |
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20:34:28 |
MyBabyandMore |
Also, bath may be stimulating for him.
He could be so worn out from the day
that he just can't do this one more
thing. If time allows, you could try
giving him a bath in the morning.
Sometimes just a change in the routine
helps! |
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20:34:40 |
Mom2Ethan |
oh ok |
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20:34:48 |
Mom2Ethan |
I never thought o that |
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20:35:00 |
Mom2Ethan |
I will try these things |
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20:35:07 |
Mom2Ethan |
it can't hurt |
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20:35:17 |
Mom2Ethan |
I just get so frustrated |
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20:35:23 |
Mom2Ethan |
everything is no! |
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20:37:49 |
MyBabyandMore |
Well, take heart in knowing that this is
completely normal for this stage in his
development. If you talk to other moms
with children his age they would tell
you the same thing! |
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20:39:17 |
MyBabyandMore |
You can sign up for the My Baby and More
Newsletter at my website:
http://www.MyBabyandMore.com . I send out
parenting tips on issues like these. |
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20:39:27 |
Mom2Ethan |
ok |
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20:39:30 |
Mom2Ethan |
thanks |
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20:40:43 |
MyBabyandMore |
Another thing that is helpful it to use
the When . . . Then . . . " statement.
For example: When you put your shoes on
. . . Then you can go outside." |
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20:41:52 |
MyBabyandMore |
This helps children even as young as
Ethan understand that he can 1) be able
to make a choice and 2) that there are
concequences to his actions. Gee . . .If
I put my shoes on then I can go play.
Ok! Let's do that! |
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20:42:05 |
Mom2Ethan |
ok |
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20:42:14 |
Mom2Ethan |
makes sense |
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20:42:28 |
MyBabyandMore |
You have me all to yourself tonight lol |
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20:42:33 |
Mom2Ethan |
lol |
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20:42:43 |
Mom2Ethan |
thats good for me |
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20:42:51 |
Mom2Ethan |
I feel better |
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20:43:01 |
Mom2Ethan |
I have some stuff to try tom |
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20:44:49 |
MyBabyandMore |
Yes, and just remember that if one
trick" doesn't work something else will.
Just like we always don't feel like
having water for dinner; sometimes we
want a nice cold glass of milk. :) Keep
trying, something will eventually work!" |
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20:45:05 |
Mom2Ethan |
ok ty |
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20:45:22 |
MyBabyandMore |
do you have any other children? |
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20:45:33 |
Mom2Ethan |
no thank god! |
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20:45:43 |
Mom2Ethan |
he is trying my patience! |
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20:45:46 |
MyBabyandMore |
lol |
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20:45:59 |
MyBabyandMore |
It will get better. |
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20:46:11 |
Mom2Ethan |
I know |
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20:47:53 |
MyBabyandMore |
Make sure you are taking care of
yourself too. Eat right, sleep as much
as you can, get plently of sun light and
exercise. These will all help you reduce
your stress level so you can be your
best Mommy self to Ethan. |
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20:48:03 |
Mom2Ethan |
I try its just so hard! |
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20:50:47 |
MyBabyandMore |
oops sorry |
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20:50:51 |
MyBabyandMore |
baby crying |
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20:51:09 |
MyBabyandMore |
I have a 11 month old and 2 1/2 year old |
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20:51:22 |
Mom2Ethan |
wow you are busy |
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20:51:36 |
MyBabyandMore |
yeah, but I love it - MOST days! |
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20:52:13 |
MyBabyandMore |
Is there anything else you want to chat
about? We still have several minutes . .
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20:53:08 |
Mom2Ethan |
what other songs should I sing to get E
to listen? |
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20:55:31 |
MyBabyandMore |
Well . . .Let's see . . . For teeth
brushing time you could sing This is the
way we brush out teeth, brush our teeth,
brush our teeth . . . . so early in the
morning!"" |
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20:55:40 |
Mom2Ethan |
o ok |
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20:57:02 |
MyBabyandMore |
or We're putting on our shirt, we're
putting on our shirt, heigh ho the dairy
oh, we're putting on our shirt!"" |
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20:57:11 |
Mom2Ethan |
ok cool |
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20:57:27 |
Mom2Ethan |
not much of a singer though |
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20:59:08 |
MyBabyandMore |
Well, that's the good thing about kids.
They don't care what you sound like.
They just care that you are there and
that you love them with all your heart.
It sounds like you are a great mommy. |
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20:59:15 |
Mom2Ethan |
thanks |
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20:59:22 |
Mom2Ethan |
trying hard |
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20:59:29 |
Mom2Ethan |
not always succesful; |
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21:00:23 |
MyBabyandMore |
Well, come back and let me know how it
goes! I'll be here again next Tuesday! |
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21:00:27 |
Mom2Ethan |
ok |
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21:00:34 |
Mom2Ethan |
thanks again |
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21:00:52 |
MyBabyandMore |
My pleasure. good luck! |
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21:00:59 |
MyBabyandMore |
Good night! |
