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20:03:03 |
Host_Colleen |
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20:03:19 |
Host_Colleen |
;) |
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20:03:19 |
minicooper |
me too... 2.5 years old is getting touch |
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20:03:24 |
minicooper |
oops tough even |
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20:03:41 |
Host_Colleen |
I ready when you are |
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20:03:53 |
Webmama_Tina |
you going with the moderated chat? |
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20:03:58 |
Webmama_Tina |
you can do whatever you like |
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20:03:59 |
Webmama_Tina |
:) |
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20:04:06 |
Webmama_Tina |
i just want to follow your lead on how
you want your chat to be |
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20:04:11 |
Webmama_Tina |
:) |
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20:04:33 |
Webmama_Tina |
? |
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20:04:35 |
Webmama_Tina |
\:) |
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20:04:37 |
Webmama_Tina |
:) |
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20:05:19 |
Host_Colleen |
i guess what is the difference lol |
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20:05:33 |
Host_Colleen |
still new to this myself |
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20:05:38 |
Webmama_Tina |
:) |
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20:05:47 |
Webmama_Tina |
usually if there's not many people, you
can just go casual... |
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20:05:50 |
Webmama_Tina |
but its up to you |
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20:05:54 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok so shall i ask my question? |
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20:05:57 |
Host_Colleen |
ok let's go casual |
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20:06:00 |
Host_Colleen |
yes ask away! |
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20:06:01 |
Webmama_Tina |
or give my scenario |
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20:06:02 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok |
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20:06:08 |
Webmama_Tina |
so my daughter is 5.5yrs old... |
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20:06:17 |
Webmama_Tina |
and most of the tantrums i read about in
the books are for 1 and 2 yr olds |
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20:06:19 |
Webmama_Tina |
this is way different |
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20:06:42 |
Webmama_Tina |
she will completely lose control a
couple times a week...usually not super
frequent but they are horrendous |
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20:06:47 |
Webmama_Tina |
she only does this at home thank god |
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20:07:15 |
Webmama_Tina |
but when she loses it she's screaming
like a maniac and i have to physically
take her to her bed to have her lay down
to calm down |
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20:07:26 |
Webmama_Tina |
i'm ready to go ape on her when she does
this so that's all i can think of to do
at this point |
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20:07:35 |
Webmama_Tina |
i don't want to yell or hit |
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20:07:42 |
Host_Colleen |
what triggers it? |
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20:07:44 |
Webmama_Tina |
although i don't believe in time
outs...that's essentially what i do |
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20:07:53 |
Webmama_Tina |
well it could be anything really...but
usually frustration |
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20:07:59 |
Webmama_Tina |
she has a baby brother and he annoys her |
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20:08:08 |
Webmama_Tina |
and she's highly irritable |
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20:08:22 |
Host_Colleen |
what happened right before the last one? |
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20:08:24 |
Webmama_Tina |
it usually seems to happen at a time of
day when she tends to be out of sorts |
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20:08:27 |
Webmama_Tina |
tired, hungry, etc |
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20:08:32 |
Webmama_Tina |
lemme think...umm...oh yes |
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20:08:35 |
Host_Colleen |
nodding |
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20:08:36 |
Webmama_Tina |
she hit her brother |
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20:08:49 |
Webmama_Tina |
i tell ya i don't know what to do with
her when she hits! |
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20:08:57 |
Webmama_Tina |
she never was a hitter til just recently |
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20:09:04 |
Webmama_Tina |
anyway i got angry and she lost control |
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20:09:14 |
Host_Colleen |
very frustrating for you AND her |
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20:09:15 |
Webmama_Tina |
i suspect she was also ashamed of
herself |
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20:09:54 |
Webmama_Tina |
she tends to freak out if she's feeling
bad about herself and she doesn't want
any consoling or holding or
anything...but i was angry so i was
trying to figure out what to do and she
went freako really fast and just lost it |
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20:10:57 |
Host_Colleen |
sometimes hugging her (even though she
may resist) is the best thing you can
do. |
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20:11:17 |
Host_Colleen |
if she is talking (or screaming) and you
can understand her |
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20:11:25 |
Host_Colleen |
you want to repeat what she is saying |
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20:11:51 |
Webmama_Tina |
sorry |
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20:11:55 |
Webmama_Tina |
baby disappeared |
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20:12:01 |
Webmama_Tina |
had to find him...found him with a
balloon! |
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20:12:02 |
Host_Colleen |
He took my block!"" |
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20:12:03 |
Webmama_Tina |
bad mama, lol |
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20:12:07 |
Host_Colleen |
lol |
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20:12:20 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok repeat what she is saying... |
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20:12:29 |
Host_Colleen |
then put names to her feelings |
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20:12:32 |
Webmama_Tina |
right |
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20:12:36 |
Host_Colleen |
You are frustrated! |
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20:12:42 |
Host_Colleen |
You are angry! |
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20:13:01 |
Webmama_Tina |
i tell her...its ok to be angry but its
not ok to hit |
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20:13:07 |
Webmama_Tina |
we've talked about hitting pillows,
etc... |
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20:13:23 |
Host_Colleen |
Hug her tight even if she resists - not
to restrain just to reasuure |
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20:13:26 |
Host_Colleen |
that is great |
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20:13:30 |
Webmama_Tina |
she just freaks out when she gets
disciplined on anything and then you
just can't do anything til she calms
down... |
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20:13:37 |
Host_Colleen |
sounds like you know a lot about
positive parenting! |
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20:13:49 |
Webmama_Tina |
she just will not even do a thing that i
suggest to try to calm her down |
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20:13:55 |
Webmama_Tina |
its always i caaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaan't"" |
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20:14:22 |
Host_Colleen |
then you You can't! You feel like you
can't! You feel helpless and sad!"" |
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20:14:22 |
Webmama_Tina |
what exactly do you suggest to do as a
consequence for her hitting her baby
brother? (he's one0 |
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20:14:31 |
Webmama_Tina |
i don't believe in punishment but i feel
like i should be doing something |
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20:14:35 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok |
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20:14:36 |
Host_Colleen |
why did she hit? |
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20:14:38 |
MandMmom |
sometimes I have to count to 10 WITH my
daughter -- and sometimes a few times in
a row. |
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20:14:44 |
Webmama_Tina |
oh he pulled the blanket off her fort |
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20:14:54 |
Host_Colleen |
ok |
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20:14:55 |
Webmama_Tina |
she got enraged and hit him |
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20:15:01 |
Webmama_Tina |
i can totally understand her
feelings...and i tell her that |
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20:15:06 |
Host_Colleen |
focus on a solution to her problem |
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20:15:14 |
Host_Colleen |
what is her name? |
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20:15:14 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok |
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20:15:16 |
Webmama_Tina |
maeven |
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20:15:41 |
Host_Colleen |
maeven, I see that you are frustrated
b/c the baby pulled the blanket off your
fort |
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20:16:03 |
Webmama_Tina |
she's classic as far as her feelings
that baby is annoying and in the way and
mommy and daddy pay more attention to
him than her.. |
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20:16:07 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok |
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20:16:08 |
Host_Colleen |
there is a solution to every problem . .
. what do you think the solution to this
one is |
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20:16:24 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok at that moment she won't be reasoned
with cuz she lost control almost
immediately |
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20:16:26 |
Host_Colleen |
maybe we could build him his own fort? |
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20:16:34 |
Webmama_Tina |
so should i just do the holding until
she calms |
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20:16:37 |
Webmama_Tina |
and then talk? |
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20:16:44 |
Host_Colleen |
ok |
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20:16:45 |
Webmama_Tina |
even though she just hit her brother? |
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20:17:03 |
Webmama_Tina |
and he's screaming and she's
screaming...ay yi yi...mommy's losing
it, lol |
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20:17:05 |
Host_Colleen |
since controlling the outbreak needs to
be done before we can more on |
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20:17:25 |
Webmama_Tina |
yeah as soon as she gets caught doing
something wrong she tends to tantrum |
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20:17:31 |
Host_Colleen |
move on let's talk about relaxation |
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20:17:34 |
Webmama_Tina |
like i said, i think she is ashamed of
herself |
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20:17:38 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok |
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20:17:53 |
Host_Colleen |
that is understandable first borns tend
to be perfectionists esp girls |
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20:17:58 |
Webmama_Tina |
oh heck ya |
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20:18:01 |
Webmama_Tina |
she's just like me |
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20:18:06 |
Host_Colleen |
;) |
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20:18:20 |
Host_Colleen |
so you should talk with her about
relaxation |
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20:18:34 |
Webmama_Tina |
highly irritable too...i was the same
way with my bro...and i tell her that
all the time...i tell her that's what
baby brothers do...they annoy you...you
have to learn to not let it annoy you |
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20:18:37 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok |
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20:18:39 |
Host_Colleen |
before bedtime tell he a story about a
little girl who get SO MAD at her baby
brother |
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20:18:50 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok that's an idea i've not
tried...telling a story |
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20:19:05 |
Host_Colleen |
and this little girl has magic powers |
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20:19:13 |
Host_Colleen |
they are called relaxing breaths |
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20:19:18 |
Webmama_Tina |
i have talked to her about relaxing,
calming, counting, hitting pillows,
breathing deep, etc...she literally
cannot do any of these things in the
heat of the moment |
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20:19:26 |
Host_Colleen |
she smells the flowers and then blows
out the candles |
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20:19:37 |
Host_Colleen |
anytime she is about to get frustrated |
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20:19:57 |
MandMmom |
how old is maeven? |
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20:20:05 |
Webmama_Tina |
once she loses it she won't try anything
and believe me, i've tried to get her to
breathe with me, etc...she just says she
can't and that she can't stop crying...i
tell her to cry as much as she needs to
to get it out |
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20:20:11 |
Webmama_Tina |
maeven will be 6 in nov |
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20:20:34 |
Webmama_Tina |
i think i should write your story down,
colleen, lol |
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20:20:37 |
Webmama_Tina |
good story |
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20:21:21 |
Host_Colleen |
tell her that sometimes this little girl
get SO MAD that she can't stop crying |
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20:21:28 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok |
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20:22:16 |
Webmama_Tina |
so do i come back to the issue of the
hitting? |
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20:22:18 |
Host_Colleen |
and that she called a friend to help her
figure out a solution to her problem And
her friend sadi . . .(ask maeven to fill
in the blanks here) |
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20:22:32 |
Webmama_Tina |
oh good |
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20:22:49 |
MandMmom |
I have a 5 yr old girl & a 3 yr old boy,
and I find that rewarding good behavior
really helps with her -- I am becoming
known for my many reward charts" where
she gets a star sticker when she does
something good, and when the chart is
filled up she gets" |
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20:22:52 |
Cas |
is this the right place? |
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20:22:54 |
Host_Colleen |
maybe she will surprise you and help
herself figure out a solution |
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20:23:04 |
minicooper |
you are here Cas |
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20:23:11 |
Webmama_Tina |
oh that would be awesome |
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20:23:12 |
Host_Colleen |
hi Cas! |
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20:23:14 |
MandMmom |
a reward. This may help her want to try
and work out her anger more |
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20:23:16 |
Cas |
hello |
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20:23:36 |
Host_Colleen |
Rewards work well for some children |
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20:23:56 |
MandMmom |
The chart thing worked great for
stopping sucking her thumb -- but her
brother doesn't seem to care as much as
she does. |
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20:24:09 |
minicooper |
no offense but i'm not big on rewarding
good behaviour, though it's true it
works for some kids |
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20:24:19 |
Webmama_Tina |
i have such mixed feelings about
external motivations like punishment and
rewards... |
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20:24:29 |
Host_Colleen |
but they do not help find a solution to
the problem |
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20:24:35 |
Webmama_Tina |
right |
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20:24:44 |
Webmama_Tina |
and i want to teach her internal
motivation |
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20:25:05 |
Webmama_Tina |
just not sure exactly how to do that yet |
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20:25:07 |
minicooper |
kinda sets them to expect things when
they do good stuff and when they get
older... it doesn't work that way in
life |
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20:25:41 |
Host_Colleen |
as far as revisiting the hittinh Tina |
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20:25:52 |
Host_Colleen |
try to do this in the story too |
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20:26:02 |
Cas |
but some try to get any kind of
attention and good attention is better
than bad behavior attention |
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20:26:24 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok |
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20:26:25 |
Host_Colleen |
maybe another story during bath time |
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20:26:32 |
Host_Colleen |
or lunch time |
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20:26:35 |
MandMmom |
I only do the rewards for something big,
and they have to work really hard to get
it -- that way they may value it more
and be proud of themselves for
accomplishing something, and maybe
learning something at the same time |
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20:26:36 |
Webmama_Tina |
so just let it go at the moment? |
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20:27:06 |
Webmama_Tina |
god that's so hard when you come from a
culture of punishment, ya know? i keep
feeling like i'm being permissive to let
her get away with it... |
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20:27:14 |
Host_Colleen |
i would let it go at the moment because
physiologically the brain can not learn
when it is in distress |
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20:27:19 |
Webmama_Tina |
but at the same time i don't want to
resort to punishments.... |
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20:27:27 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok that makes sense |
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20:27:32 |
minicooper |
i'm the same way Tina |
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20:28:07 |
Host_Colleen |
when there is stress the hormone that is
produced actually suppresses the ability
to retain a memory |
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20:28:12 |
Webmama_Tina |
i do believe in consequences
though...but i like logical and natural
consequences...they make sense...its
times like hitting that i can't for the
life of me think of a logical or natural
consequence, you know? |
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20:28:23 |
Webmama_Tina |
oh i didn't know that...lemme tell my dh |
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20:28:32 |
Host_Colleen |
MandMmom that make sense |
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20:28:50 |
Host_Colleen |
that way the child is working towards a
goal too |
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20:29:30 |
MandMmom |
I also let my family & friends know, so
they can praise them when they do well,
and help motivate them... it makes them
feel special |
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20:30:02 |
Host_Colleen |
so Tina do you feel armed with some ammo
for tomorrow? |
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20:30:07 |
Host_Colleen |
;) |
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20:30:30 |
Webmama_Tina |
i do! i've been relaying to my dh, who
just got home |
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20:30:41 |
Webmama_Tina |
we've both been at whit's end lately
because we don't know what to do |
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20:30:55 |
Webmama_Tina |
but do i let it go when she's not
freaking out? |
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20:31:06 |
Host_Colleen |
let what go the hitting? |
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20:31:08 |
Webmama_Tina |
i mean there are times when she hits and
doesn't have an immediate tantrum |
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20:31:10 |
Webmama_Tina |
yes |
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20:31:27 |
Host_Colleen |
this is a good time to do the other
suggestion |
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20:31:30 |
Webmama_Tina |
i mean how do i address the hitting if
she's not freaking out.... |
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20:31:39 |
Webmama_Tina |
other suggestion? |
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20:31:47 |
Webmama_Tina |
oh talking with her |
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20:31:50 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok |
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20:32:06 |
Webmama_Tina |
reflecting back her feelings? |
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20:32:25 |
Host_Colleen |
i am looking for it to copy and paste
but I will just retype |
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20:32:40 |
Webmama_Tina |
oh i can scroll up |
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20:32:51 |
Host_Colleen |
basically just telling her that there is
a solution to every problem |
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20:33:13 |
Host_Colleen |
hitting is not an appropriate solution |
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20:33:25 |
Host_Colleen |
Maeven what can we do to resolve this
problem |
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20:33:31 |
Webmama_Tina |
you know, i was a preschool teacher and
used that technique for other people's
kids for a couple years...i just have
forgotten how to do that...thanks for
the reminder, lol |
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20:33:39 |
Host_Colleen |
There is a solution to every problem"" |
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20:33:51 |
Host_Colleen |
that should be painted on our walls lol |
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20:33:56 |
Host_Colleen |
we say it so much here |
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20:34:03 |
Webmama_Tina |
that's a good thing to say...i've never
looked at it that way |
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20:34:11 |
Host_Colleen |
ask her what a good solution would be |
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20:34:22 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok and if she says she doesn't know?
because she will |
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20:34:23 |
Webmama_Tina |
lol |
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20:34:24 |
Host_Colleen |
helping baby make his own fort? |
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20:34:41 |
Webmama_Tina |
then i can give her ideas, right? |
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20:34:43 |
Host_Colleen |
or asking Mommy for help |
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20:34:45 |
Host_Colleen |
yup |
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20:35:00 |
Host_Colleen |
Help me Mama!" is another frequent
saying at our house" |
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20:35:02 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok and over time she'll be able to come
up with answers, gotcha |
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20:35:05 |
Host_Colleen |
I have a 1 & 3 yr ols |
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20:35:09 |
Host_Colleen |
yes |
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20:35:16 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok thank you so much! |
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20:35:23 |
Host_Colleen |
Teach her above all to say Help me
Mama!"" |
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20:35:28 |
Webmama_Tina |
oh she does that |
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20:35:30 |
Webmama_Tina |
a LOT |
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20:35:38 |
Host_Colleen |
And then pull yourself away and help as
quickly as you can |
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20:35:43 |
Webmama_Tina |
its a worn out saying here...i get tired
of hearing it, lol |
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20:35:56 |
Host_Colleen |
so that she trusts you will come |
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20:36:00 |
Host_Colleen |
well then that is good |
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20:36:00 |
Webmama_Tina |
yeah i need to do that |
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20:36:05 |
Webmama_Tina |
i haven't been so good at that in awhile |
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20:36:09 |
Webmama_Tina |
i make her wait a lot |
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20:36:10 |
Webmama_Tina |
a LOT |
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20:36:13 |
Host_Colleen |
and if you are tired of that come up
with anothersafe" word" |
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20:36:19 |
Webmama_Tina |
oh maybe so |
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20:36:30 |
Webmama_Tina |
that's a good idea...we'll create a new
phrase |
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20:36:41 |
Cas |
i have a situation from a friend if
anyone has any ideas.......brb |
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20:36:45 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok sorry to monopolize colleen,
mamas....y'all have questions too i'm
sure |
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20:36:50 |
Host_Colleen |
something funny - |
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20:36:55 |
Host_Colleen |
like Hairball! |
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20:37:05 |
Host_Colleen |
Humor always lightens up the situation |
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20:37:15 |
Webmama_Tina |
yeah funny is good...we have a code word
for her to interrupt with...cuz i often
will get caught up on the phone and not
listen to her |
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20:37:22 |
Host_Colleen |
I always get frustrated when my son says
Mama, Mama, Mama over and over |
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20:37:35 |
Webmama_Tina |
so now she says pookie!!!" and it helps
jar me out of my phone conversation to
notice her, lol" |
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20:37:41 |
Cas |
ok back |
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20:37:57 |
Host_Colleen |
so when I start to feel frustrated I
tell him I will not answer to Mama
anymore my new name is fluffy head |
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20:37:59 |
Webmama_Tina |
yeah she really does well with playful
parenting...i need to finish that book |
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20:38:05 |
Webmama_Tina |
ROFL |
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20:38:08 |
Host_Colleen |
I say I will not answer no another!"" |
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20:38:09 |
Webmama_Tina |
that is hysterical!!!! |
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20:38:17 |
Host_Colleen |
We both laugh and the tension breaks |
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20:38:18 |
Webmama_Tina |
oh i have to remember that! |
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20:38:29 |
Webmama_Tina |
oh that is totally from the playful
parenting guy, lol |
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20:38:32 |
Host_Colleen |
oh Playful Parenting ROCKS! |
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20:38:37 |
Host_Colleen |
Larry is AWESOME!! |
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20:38:43 |
Webmama_Tina |
yeah he's been here a couple times |
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20:38:45 |
Webmama_Tina |
great transcripts |
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20:39:03 |
Webmama_Tina |
cas, feel free to post your
situation...i'm not going to monopolize
colleen anymore :) |
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20:39:12 |
Cas |
lol |
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20:39:16 |
Host_Colleen |
good luck Tina! |
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20:39:20 |
Host_Colleen |
keep me posted |
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20:39:22 |
Cas |
was waiting until you were done |
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20:39:28 |
Host_Colleen |
go ahead Cas |
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20:40:22 |
Cas |
my friend has a 3 year old like i do but
today she said he threw a chair at her
and has started to run her over |
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20:40:29 |
Webmama_Tina |
if anyone wants to read the playful
parenting transcripts:
http://mommychats.com/mothering/index.htm |
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20:40:42 |
Cas |
my 3 year old is very well mannered |
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20:40:43 |
Webmama_Tina |
he's on there and also:
http://mommychats.com/transcripts/index.htm |
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20:40:47 |
Host_Colleen |
Come join our weekly Breastfeeding
Advocacy Chat, led by Host_Housepoet of
www.breastfeedingisnormal.com, every
Wednesday: 9-10am pacific, 10-11am
mountain, 11am-12pm central, 12-1pm
eastern. In the Breastfeeding" chat
room." |
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20:40:52 |
Cas |
so wasnt' sure what to tell her |
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20:40:58 |
Cas |
and she is looking for ideas |
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20:41:11 |
Host_Colleen |
threw a chair? |
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20:41:17 |
Cas |
yes |
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20:41:39 |
Host_Colleen |
run her over how? |
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20:42:18 |
Cas |
not sure of the whole story but she was
saying that he is starting to get
violent |
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20:42:49 |
Cas |
he tells her how its going to be |
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20:42:54 |
Host_Colleen |
it is hard for me to help without
knowing more info I encourage her to
email me Colleen@mybabyandmore.com |
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20:42:57 |
Cas |
what he will and won't do |
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20:43:13 |
Cas |
she doesn't have a computer so hard for
her to do that |
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20:43:19 |
Host_Colleen |
this is quite normal - tell mom what he
will and wont do |
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20:43:27 |
Host_Colleen |
she could call me ;) |
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20:43:36 |
Cas |
i can pass your number to her |
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20:43:40 |
Host_Colleen |
but the violence is not |
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20:43:54 |
Host_Colleen |
r his parents together? |
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20:44:02 |
Cas |
no |
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20:44:14 |
Host_Colleen |
sure email me off list and I will send
you my number |
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20:44:16 |
Cas |
she is with someone else and they are
both at a loss |
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20:44:17 |
Host_Colleen |
ok |
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20:44:28 |
Cas |
she hasn't been getting any sleep the
last couple of days |
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20:44:34 |
Host_Colleen |
well sometimes this type of separation
can cause a lot of anger |
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20:44:38 |
Webmama_Tina |
could he be reacting to the new
boyfriend? |
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20:44:59 |
Cas |
don't think so since they have been
together for some time |
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20:45:16 |
Webmama_Tina |
oh |
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20:45:19 |
Webmama_Tina |
nevermind, lol |
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20:45:21 |
Host_Colleen |
is there issues between his biological
mom and dad? |
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20:45:56 |
Cas |
they don't get along and she has said
there are problems in how the family
deals with the child |
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20:46:12 |
Host_Colleen |
which family? |
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20:46:44 |
Cas |
the grandparents |
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20:46:52 |
Host_Colleen |
when there are issues in the family like
this it is best for the child, the
inncocent, to be brought to a counselor. |
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20:47:12 |
Host_Colleen |
At this age in development children are
ego centric |
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20:47:27 |
Host_Colleen |
This means that he may be blaming
himself for everything that goes on |
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20:47:29 |
Cas |
not sure if she has talked to one yet or
not but she was talking about one today |
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20:47:36 |
Host_Colleen |
good |
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20:47:40 |
Host_Colleen |
it is best |
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20:47:47 |
Host_Colleen |
for the little guy |
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20:47:55 |
Cas |
i thought i might have problems with my
son after his daddy left |
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20:48:00 |
Host_Colleen |
and everyone else involved |
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20:48:02 |
Cas |
but he has been an angel |
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20:48:16 |
Host_Colleen |
:angel: |
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20:48:23 |
Host_Colleen |
:) |
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20:48:42 |
Host_Colleen |
anyone else have a question? |
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20:48:57 |
Cas |
my ex left over 3 months ago but only
had one incident |
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20:48:57 |
Host_Colleen |
Cas - please email me off list |
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20:49:09 |
Webmama_Tina |
maybe you could share where you got your
education from, colleen? i'm curious. :) |
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20:50:22 |
Webmama_Tina |
cas, perhaps you dodged a bullet...but
it is possible to come up later
too...but you probably know that already |
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20:50:35 |
Cas |
i have talked to a counselor |
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20:50:49 |
Host_Colleen |
I am the oldest of 30 grandchildren. My
grandmother was a foster parent to over
300 babies in my lifetime. I have my
degrees in Earlychildhood Education and
Psychology. I was a preschool teacher
for several years before I recevived my
REAL education |
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20:50:49 |
Webmama_Tina |
ah, good. that's always good i think. :) |
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20:50:51 |
Cas |
when my son said he didn't want to talk
to daddy cause he left |
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20:50:56 |
Host_Colleen |
My two children |
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20:51:05 |
Host_Colleen |
Wes is 3 and Claire is almost 18 months |
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20:51:24 |
Webmama_Tina |
wow, very dedicated grandmother! |
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20:51:27 |
Host_Colleen |
that is true Tina |
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20:51:40 |
Cas |
children will give you an education
alright |
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20:51:44 |
Webmama_Tina |
heck ya |
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20:51:47 |
Host_Colleen |
it may come up laer so just keep that in
the back of your mind. |
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20:51:53 |
Cas |
i do |
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20:52:19 |
Cas |
i tried to use toys to role play and get
more info but he refuses to talk about
it more |
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20:52:25 |
Cas |
so i dropped it for now |
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20:52:32 |
Host_Colleen |
Next Positive Parenting Chat will be on
the 28th |
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20:52:41 |
Host_Colleen |
Topic is Transition Tricks |
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20:52:54 |
Host_Colleen |
In other words getting those kids to
leave the party |
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20:52:59 |
Host_Colleen |
lol! |
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20:53:07 |
Webmama_Tina |
i thought i knew alot because i got my
bachelor's in child development...
*wrong* |
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20:53:21 |
Cas |
lol |
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20:53:26 |
Host_Colleen |
it is always harder with your own |
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20:53:32 |
Host_Colleen |
You are an AWESOME Mama! |
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20:53:51 |
Host_Colleen |
I think sometme knowing too much becomes
a thorn in our sife |
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20:53:58 |
Host_Colleen |
sometimes |
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20:54:02 |
Host_Colleen |
side |
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20:54:07 |
Host_Colleen |
ugh! long day |
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20:54:23 |
Webmama_Tina |
yeah i knew that i didn't know it ALL,
but i thought i knew more than i
actually did...LOL...did that make
sense? |
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20:54:33 |
Webmama_Tina |
then i became a mom and each year i'm
learning more and more i don't know... |
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20:54:35 |
Webmama_Tina |
but i'm learning! |
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20:54:41 |
Host_Colleen |
Anyone else have a quick ? before we
wrap up? |
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20:54:48 |
Cas |
as long as you keep learning that is
what matters |
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20:54:52 |
Webmama_Tina |
yup |
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20:54:56 |
Host_Colleen |
yes, Tina bu it is important for Moms to
be gentle with themselves |
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20:55:07 |
Webmama_Tina |
yes it is, you're right...you always
remind me of that, lol |
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20:55:29 |
Host_Colleen |
we put a lot of pressure on ourselves to
be the best" when in reality we already
are doing a darn good job!" |
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20:55:41 |
Webmama_Tina |
i do give myself more breaks these days
because i know its just not possible to
do it all and to do it all perfectly.
:) gawd knows i have tried! |
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20:55:58 |
Cas |
in my opinion no one can take care of my
child better than i can |
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20:56:00 |
Webmama_Tina |
i have a friend who makes me feel very
judged...that is hard |
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20:56:07 |
Webmama_Tina |
absolutely, cas! |
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20:56:21 |
Webmama_Tina |
someone else has to have a question for
colleen! |
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20:56:22 |
Cas |
so many try to tell me what is best |
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20:56:26 |
Webmama_Tina |
y'all are being very quiet! |
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20:56:30 |
Webmama_Tina |
chelsea? |
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20:56:35 |
mommynature |
Okay, I just came in and realized I've
come at the end. Ooops! I'll make a
note on my computer with the time for
your next chat. |
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20:57:00 |
Host_Colleen |
Don't forget to check out my children's
book about breastfeeding, Near Mama's
Heart. www.NearMamasHeart.com |
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20:57:18 |
Webmama_Tina |
oh very cool! |
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20:57:22 |
Webmama_Tina |
there's not many of those |
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20:57:28 |
Webmama_Tina |
and one of the ones i have i don't
like...ugly drawings |
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20:57:37 |
Cas |
lol |
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20:57:44 |
Host_Colleen |
mommynature do you have a ? |
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20:57:49 |
mommynature |
So true! I even shared it at our last
LLL meeting! |
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20:58:00 |
Host_Colleen |
I can stay for a little while longer |
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20:58:10 |
Host_Colleen |
thank mommy! |
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20:58:38 |
Webmama_Tina |
colleen, is it a board book or a paper
one? |
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20:58:48 |
Host_Colleen |
paper for now |
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20:58:51 |
mommynature |
Well, not really. Just trying to get
through each day really with my two. |
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20:58:57 |
Host_Colleen |
and in a few months it will be in
Spanich too! |
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20:59:07 |
Host_Colleen |
Spanish that is |
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20:59:10 |
Webmama_Tina |
i hear ya mommynature |
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20:59:12 |
Webmama_Tina |
me too |
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20:59:18 |
Cas |
you have had a long day |
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20:59:22 |
mommynature |
I want a copy of the Spanish version as
well! We are trying to learn it here. |
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20:59:41 |
Host_Colleen |
cool! |
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20:59:56 |
Host_Colleen |
it is still in the translation stage |
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21:00:14 |
Webmama_Tina |
well dh wants me to help with dinner
now...gotta git...but thanks again
colleen! i've told him about the story
idea...he does bedtime routine and i
think he'll use that tonite...how very
waldorf/enki of you! |
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21:00:15 |
Webmama_Tina |
:) |
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21:00:16 |
Host_Colleen |
Maryland WIC ordered 2200 in Eng and 800
in Spanish the other day |
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21:00:37 |
mommynature |
AWESOME! Congrats! |
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21:00:39 |
Host_Colleen |
great Tina! take care! |
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21:00:40 |
Webmama_Tina |
wowee! |
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21:00:46 |
Host_Colleen |
my dh is cooking too |
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21:00:52 |
Host_Colleen |
Although it is 10 pm here |
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21:00:54 |
MandMmom |
That's great! |
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21:01:00 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok take care! |
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21:01:08 |
Host_Colleen |
he just got in from work as usuaal |
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21:02:04 |
Host_Colleen |
Well if there are not anymore pressing
issues |
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21:02:07 |
Host_Colleen |
I will get going |
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21:02:13 |
Host_Colleen |
'Thank you to everyone who came! |
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21:02:17 |
Cas |
thank you for your time |
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21:02:31 |
mommynature |
Thanks! I look forward to the next one! |
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21:02:32 |
Host_Colleen |
Please email me off list if you need
anything! Colleen@mybabyandmore.com |
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21:02:40 |
MandMmom |
Thanks! |
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21:02:45 |
Host_Colleen |
See you on the 28th |
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21:02:53 |
Host_Colleen |
goon night |
