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10:56:58 |
Host_Housepoet |
I got this email this morning. |
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10:57:10 |
Host_Housepoet |
Hello, I was just looking at your t-shirts and wanted to
ask if you know anyone in the San Diego area, A friend
of mine went to a restaurant there (PF Chang's ) for
lunch with her 6 month old baby and the rest of her work
group for northern CA, last week. Party of 11 all
together. she was breastfeeding her baby in the front of
the restaurant waiting for their table when the manager
came up to her and asked if she needed a towel, She said
no thank-you, doing fine, Not realizing what she was
talking about, Then was asked if she would like to go
sit their back room, still not knowing, she said no, I'm
fine here thank-you.then the manager said no your not
understanding, our policy is no breastfeeding , it could
make other people uncomfortable.....At that point the
whole group decided they would not eat there and told
her to forget the table for 11 and went to spend their
money across the street @ the chees
ecake factory. When this all happened i was there in
Tucson visiting my family. I saw you are also located in
Tucson. Do you have any connections or know anyone that
might be able to do something in San Diego? Thank-you
for your time and i will be sure to get a couple of your
shirts! i myself being a breastfeeding mom currently!
Thank-You, |
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10:57:39 |
kristenandmadeleine |
omg, my kids hair smells awful |
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10:57:50 |
kristenandmadeleine |
but i cant stop smelling it |
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10:58:36 |
mizdrea |
wow |
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10:58:40 |
mizdrea |
that's unbelieveable |
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10:58:41 |
Host_Housepoet |
I know right |
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10:58:45 |
Host_Housepoet |
I can't believe it either |
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10:59:16 |
Host_Housepoet |
I mean, it's a complete violation of the california law |
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10:59:20 |
kristenandmadeleine |
ye |
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10:59:23 |
kristenandmadeleine |
yep |
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10:59:28 |
Host_Housepoet |
that isn't private property , they had a right to be
there |
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10:59:33 |
holdensmomma |
is that their company policy or just that location? |
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11:00:50 |
kristenandmadeleine |
its federal law though. |
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11:00:53 |
Host_Housepoet |
that's something we would have to look into |
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11:00:58 |
Hisrisingstar |
that stinks |
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11:01:06 |
Hisrisingstar |
i went through something very similar unfortunately |
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11:01:23 |
holdensmomma |
im tempted to go eat at ours locally to see what happens |
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11:02:03 |
Host_Housepoet |
Cal ALS 59; 1997 Cal AB 157; Stats 1997 ch
59Notwithstanding any other provision of law, a mother
may breastfeed her child in any location, public or
private, except the private home or residence of
another, where the mother and child are authorized to be
present.Cal Code Civ. Proc. § 210.5 |
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11:02:21 |
Host_Housepoet |
well it's against the law. |
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11:02:22 |
mizdrea |
i wonder what the law is up here |
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11:02:30 |
Host_Housepoet |
you're in Canada right? |
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11:02:32 |
mizdrea |
where would i find out? |
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11:02:33 |
Host_Housepoet |
that I'm not sure of |
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11:02:33 |
mizdrea |
yeah |
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11:02:36 |
mizdrea |
calgary |
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11:02:46 |
Host_Housepoet |
you can check out the LLL site and see what if any laws
are there to protect you |
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11:02:57 |
Host_Housepoet |
def. check it out, and make a copy of the law and keep
it with you at all times |
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11:03:07 |
mizdrea |
yeah |
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11:03:09 |
holdensmomma |
did she complain? |
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11:03:12 |
mizdrea |
i'll ask at the next meeting |
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11:03:13 |
Host_Housepoet |
Once, we get our letterhead, we'll be sending letters
with the copy of the law to places like this |
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11:03:22 |
Host_Housepoet |
this is a big thing, and a clear violation |
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11:03:24 |
mwalton |
excellent idea |
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11:03:28 |
Host_Housepoet |
too bad we're not in Hawaii |
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11:03:37 |
Host_Housepoet |
you can SUE someone for violating your rights like this! |
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11:04:02 |
mwalton |
way to go Hawaii! |
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11:04:52 |
mwalton |
i think that's part of the problem in places like utah
where the law is there, but if businesses break it there
are no seeming consequences for them |
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11:05:35 |
Hisrisingstar |
In texas I thought I was protected, but the law states
anywhere I am authorized to be" which means businesses
can kick me out for breastfeeding and say I am not
authorized to be there" |
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11:05:54 |
Host_Housepoet |
but in reality they can't |
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11:06:12 |
Host_Housepoet |
and they can't have a 'policy' stating that a women
breastfeeding her child isn't welcome in the store |
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11:06:19 |
Host_Housepoet |
it's not like no shoes no shirt no service thing |
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11:06:53 |
Host_Housepoet |
see this is why breastfeedingisnormal.org is here, we're
going to have this database where people can look up
buinesses that violate the rights of nursing mothers |
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11:06:58 |
mummoth |
you'd have to take action after the fact though.. |
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11:07:28 |
Host_Housepoet |
have you read What to do when confronted about
breastfeeding in public"" |
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11:07:33 |
Host_Housepoet |
http://breastfeedingisnormal.org/BreastfeedingConfrontation |
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11:07:43 |
Hisrisingstar |
they tried to remove me for breastfeeding on base! they
said I am not allowed to family functions unless i bring
a cover!"" |
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11:07:43 |
Host_Housepoet |
it's a great little article wrtten by a LLL leader |
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11:08:08 |
Host_Housepoet |
well you're completely protected to do so there. |
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11:08:10 |
Host_Housepoet |
they can't stop you |
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11:08:25 |
Host_Housepoet |
and honestly if they did anything to your husband bc you
were bfing, then that would be a whole bunch of hoohaw |
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11:08:25 |
kristenandmadeleine |
they are just trying to intimidate you |
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11:08:33 |
Host_Housepoet |
aren't they supposed to be 'protecting' the country. |
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11:08:45 |
Host_Housepoet |
and not from rabid accidendtal boob flashes either ;) |
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11:08:55 |
kristenandmadeleine |
tell the,m to go find a terorist to annoy |
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11:09:13 |
janaya |
hi mamas :) |
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11:09:18 |
kristenandmadeleine |
hi! |
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11:09:45 |
mwalton |
hi |
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11:10:04 |
Hisrisingstar |
lol |
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11:10:18 |
Hisrisingstar |
i raised hell for it |
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11:10:18 |
Host_Housepoet |
HEY JANAYA |
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11:10:43 |
Hisrisingstar |
so now I am allowed to nurse with or without a cover at
any family function but discretion is strongly advised"" |
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11:11:02 |
mummoth |
I havent ben bothered by anyone in public, but Im sure
if someone did come up, DD would pop off to give them a
WTF is your problem?" look" |
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11:11:05 |
mwalton |
good for you! |
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11:11:22 |
Host_Housepoet |
you should tell them that if someone is staring hard
enough that the WILL SEE BOOB. |
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11:11:23 |
janaya |
i read somewhere that your husband can get in trouble
for that...? |
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11:11:29 |
mummoth |
.+ |
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11:11:31 |
janaya |
the military is jacked |
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11:11:38 |
Host_Housepoet |
but then, THEY should be the ones punished or watch
after for being perverts |
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11:11:51 |
mummoth |
.0soorry.... DD is kicking the keyboaerd |
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11:12:16 |
mwalton |
s'ok..she just wanted to voice her indignation too ;) |
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11:12:16 |
Host_Housepoet |
I wouldn't say that janaya |
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11:12:23 |
Host_Housepoet |
there are some good men and women serving |
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11:12:31 |
mummoth |
lol |
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11:12:31 |
janaya |
oh of course! i'm saying, |
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11:12:32 |
Host_Housepoet |
its the red tape and higher ups that make things bad |
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11:12:54 |
janaya |
If it's the case that someone serving can get in trouble
for their wife nursing in public, that is jacked."" |
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11:13:06 |
janaya |
i should have been more specific ;) |
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11:13:39 |
mwalton |
heh yeah if my dh could get into trouble for the things
I do..man would he be in trouble a LOT of the time ;) |
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11:13:52 |
janaya |
exactly my point. :P |
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11:13:54 |
mwalton |
although he does get a lot of dirty looks and whispers
from people at church..but i'm pretty used to that |
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11:14:12 |
mwalton |
and so is he by now :) |
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11:14:28 |
mummoth |
lol DH was nervous the first few times he was with me
when I NIP |
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11:14:35 |
janaya |
do people with formula bottles get dirty looks and
whispers? |
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11:14:54 |
rainingkisses |
they do from me! |
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11:14:57 |
rainingkisses |
;) |
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11:15:02 |
Hisrisingstar |
haha from me too |
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11:15:14 |
mwalton |
no..but since i've ignored it..i've noticed a bunch more
women nursing at church..and not just in the mother's
lounge..which is great |
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11:15:16 |
janaya |
my husband got nervous for a little while after that ken
schram/baba wawa thing, but he relaxed again pretty
quick |
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11:15:24 |
Hisrisingstar |
my husband has to stop me from going up to them and
bitching them out |
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11:15:24 |
janaya |
he makes a great boob nazi |
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11:15:24 |
Hisrisingstar |
lol |
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11:15:34 |
rainingkisses |
my husband is a great boob nazi |
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11:16:02 |
therealocelot |
my husband is more of one than I am |
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11:16:03 |
kristenandmadeleine |
my boyfriend too |
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11:16:07 |
rainingkisses |
we were in Target the other day and some woman commented
on how bright and alert Annie was in the sling |
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11:16:12 |
mummoth |
mine is very pro-nursing, ut hed never say anything
about it to anyone |
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11:16:21 |
rainingkisses |
He said he wanted to yell at her, That's because she's
BREASTFED!!"" |
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11:16:37 |
rainingkisses |
well, I think my husband is more vocal about it since
his sister gave up on bfing. |
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11:16:46 |
rainingkisses |
He really sees the need for husbandly support |
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11:17:08 |
mwalton |
yeah my SIL tried" for 3 days with her first..then
didn't even attempt with the other two..." |
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11:17:09 |
Hisrisingstar |
lol, my husband told his soldier who had to take his
baby to the doctor for a really bad fever and problems
vomiting, he said thats cause hes formula fed!"" |
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11:17:11 |
kristenandmadeleine |
my boyfriend loves me nursing |
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11:17:19 |
mizdrea |
i remember in june at the year end thing at the
elementary school where i work, the mom of one of my
kids was there with her 3 weeks old son. she left the
gym to go nurse but didn't want to miss the concert so
she tried to give him his bottle with formula |
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11:17:24 |
rainingkisses |
we |
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11:17:28 |
mummoth |
lol one morning I was waiting infront of the grocery
store for it to open & chatting with this lady DS said
Booby!" and she said "Awww! He remembers it!" and I said
"Yeah, from this morning"" |
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11:17:29 |
mizdrea |
she said |
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11:17:39 |
mizdrea |
but he won't take it because he hates it |
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11:17:43 |
therealocelot |
yeah, my husband was ff and has some serious health
problems that are very likely relatedm, which probably
explains a lot |
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11:18:07 |
rainingkisses |
I gave my SIL all the support I could--I bought her
books, pumps, nursing bras |
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11:18:21 |
mwalton |
mummoth-that's priceless..hope you wrote it down in like
a journal or something |
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11:18:24 |
rainingkisses |
but she gave up because she couldn't get anything done"
grrr" |
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11:18:24 |
mummoth |
