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13:04:53 |
Webmama_Tina |
Welcome to our first ever chat with
author Elizabeth Pantley! |
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13:05:24 |
Webmama_Tina |
elizabeth, why don't you go ahead and
introduce yourself...i know we are all chomping at the bit
to get going. :) |
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13:05:59 |
ElizabethPantley |
Hi everyone! I'm the author of many
parenting books including The No-Cry Sleep Solution (Now in
15 languages!) I have a new book coming out in June... |
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13:06:02 |
Webmama_Tina |
don't mind me as i post some notices
here and there for newcomers and just info for the
group....just keep on going. :) |
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13:06:07 |
ElizabethPantley |
The No-Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers
and Preschoolers. |
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13:06:38 |
ElizabethPantley |
AND I'ma Mom of four wonderful
children -- see our new family photo at
www.pantley.com .
Today...we talk about sleep. Let's jump right in with the
first question. Mod? |
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13:06:39 |
Webmama_Tina |
and when you are done with your intro,
just say something like ready for my first question" and
spookygirl will tell you who's first" |
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13:07:03 |
Spookygirl |
And the cute pic you put in the
wonderful books you donated for my book club :) |
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13:07:20 |
ElizabethPantley |
Glad you enjoyed the pic :o) |
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13:07:32 |
ElizabethPantley |
First question?"" |
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13:07:33 |
Spookygirl |
Cassies Mama is first |
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13:07:36 |
Cassie_s_Mama |
What suggestions do you have for
transitioning a two and a half toddler to her own bed? She
generally falls asleep with me, then we transfer her to her
own bed, but i'd like for her to be able to lay down by
herself before I have another baby! |
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13:07:48 |
Spookygirl |
Good one! |
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13:07:49 |
ElizabethPantley |
A very very very popular question! |
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13:07:56 |
madawna |
? |
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13:08:00 |
Cassie_s_Mama |
thank you!! |
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13:08:18 |
ElizabethPantley |
Here are some tips (a little sneak
preview from The NCSS for Toddlers :0 ... |
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13:08:59 |
ElizabethPantley |
Before we move on to the gentle ideas
to move a child to independent sleep, let’s make sure this
is what you want to do. Here are some questions to consider |
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13:09:14 |
ElizabethPantley |
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13:09:29 |
ElizabethPantley |
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13:09:56 |
ElizabethPantley |
When you decide it's time to move your
child to independent sleep -- Try not to waver |
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13:10:10 |
ElizabethPantley |
If you feel good about this change, if
you feel that the time is right, then you will convey your
confidence to your child through your words and actions. |
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13:10:34 |
ElizabethPantley |
Set up a plan for change, write it
down, and follow your plan every night. |
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13:10:53 |
ElizabethPantley |
You can, if you choose, do it in
stages if you'd like.... |
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13:11:28 |
ElizabethPantley |
set up a second bed next to yours – it
could be a crib, toddler bed, mattress or futon. Begin by
putting it right next to your bed. Then over a period of
days or weeks even move the little bed away from yours. |
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13:11:49 |
ElizabethPantley |
once your child is comfortable in his
bed you can move it to a different bedroom. |
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13:12:11 |
Webmama_Tina |
Welcome to Mommy Chat's first chat
with author Elizabeth Pantley! Please post a single ?" if
you have a question, to get added to the qeue." |
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13:12:15 |
ElizabethPantley |
It's OK to stay and parent your child"
to sleep. Almost all toddlers require some parent's help to
get settled." |
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13:12:41 |
ElizabethPantley |
A best bet for a new bed for a newly
independent sleeper is a mattress on the floor. It’s nice
and safe (no fear of big falls) and gives your child the
freedom to get up and down easily. |
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13:13:03 |
ElizabethPantley |
Done gradually and with love a
family-bed child can love his new sleeping place. Next Q? |
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13:13:04 |
brooke |
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13:13:12 |
jgnportland |
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13:13:12 |
Spookygirl |
Leomom is next, got you Brooke |
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13:13:14 |
Cassie_s_Mama |
thank you! |
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13:13:32 |
scubamom |
? |
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13:13:40 |
Spookygirl |
got you all |
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13:13:42 |
ElizabethPantley |
You're welcome Cassies Mommy |
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13:13:46 |
Spookygirl |
Leomom, are you typing? |
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13:13:52 |
Webmama_Tina |
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13:14:05 |
schroedc |
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13:14:19 |
Webmama_Tina |
Please do not post unless it is your
turn to ask a question. If you have a question, please post
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13:14:23 |
Spookygirl |
Last call for Leomom? |
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13:14:37 |
leomom |
oh, sorry! i thought you meant next
after someoe! |
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13:14:45 |
Webmama_Tina |
lol no worries |
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13:14:49 |
Spookygirl |
no, it's your turn now hun! |
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13:15:10 |
leomom |
ok..dd just got over a cold and was
waking to nurse every hour..now she is in that habit...how
can i gently get her out of it wihoout crying? |
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13:15:26 |
leomom |
she's 5 months |
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13:15:28 |
ElizabethPantley |
Yes, you can. This is a verrrry common
issue... |
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13:15:31 |
Webmama_Tina |
Spookygirl is our qeue-keeper
today...so when she says its your turn....go for it! :) |
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13:16:01 |
ElizabethPantley |
Babies are creatures of habit -- and
nursing to sleep is the best habit their is! (And sorry -
the hardest to change...) Here's some tips.... |
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13:16:26 |
ElizabethPantley |
This are helpful for ANY baby hooked
on nursing to sleep. How about a show of hands? Who has a
baby who nurses to sleep??? |
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13:16:45 |
leomom |
me of course |
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13:16:53 |
leomom |
:) |
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13:16:57 |
dornback |
me too |
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13:17:02 |
sarahariz |
raises hand |
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13:17:10 |
jknielsen |
raising hand |
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13:17:12 |
brooke |
me, sometimes |
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13:17:20 |
schroedc |
Me |
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13:17:27 |
sunshine |
Me too |
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13:17:28 |
mom2radata |
me |
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13:17:28 |
madawna |
me too! |
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13:17:40 |
Webmama_Tina |
used to...when she was nursing (she's
4 now) |
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13:17:49 |
ElizabethPantley |
As you can see. This is a verrrry
common issue... |
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13:18:16 |
ElizabethPantley |
I was there with my 4th baby Coleton
when he was a12 months old -- that's why my book was born!!! |
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13:18:23 |
ElizabethPantley |
“Pantley’s Gentle Removal” plan may be
an important key for you. Instead of feeding your baby until
she’s totally asleep, take her off the breast when she is
done actively drinking and doing that sleepy fluttery
start/stop sucking – that’s just for pacifying. Your baby
should NOT be sound asleep when you remove her, because then
he has a strong association to sleeping with the nipple in
her mouth and she’ll be looking for it all night! And…… |
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13:18:58 |
ElizabethPantley |
Stay with it – sometimes it takes 6-10
tries before your baby will fall asleep, but after a few
days of consistent GR it will take 5-7 times, then 4 times,
then one wonderful day, your baby will fall asleep after the
first removal! Some babies are more persistent than others –
they don’t want to give up such a wonderful sleep-aid (can’t
blame ‘em!), so be patient but persistent! |
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13:19:08 |
leomom |
i do use that for naps from your
book..but at ngiht, she's already asleep as soon as i put
her on the breast? |
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13:19:36 |
ElizabethPantley |
Also, as the GR begins to work it's a
good idea to Pull Off sooner and sooner in the process, and
one day your baby will surprise you by pulling off on his
own. But to get there consistency on your part is
important….. |
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13:19:46 |
leomom |
she cries, i pick her up, go to feed
her, she sucks a few times and is out like a light for an
hour or so |
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13:19:57 |
ElizabethPantley |
If you’ve tried this, but the GR
hasn’t been working, try using a quicker more confident
break with your finger. If you are sitting and nursing her,
immediately move her up to your chest and hold her snugly
while you swing/sway/swish/pat/shh or otherwise comfort her.
If you are lying beside her, use the quick release, and then
shift your breasts away from her face (turn on your tummy)
while patting, rubbing or whatever soothes her. |
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13:20:20 |
ElizabethPantley |
You see? She's not hungry -- just
needs the feel of the nipple in her mouth. |
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13:20:36 |
leomom |
so should i skip the nipple all
together? |
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13:21:10 |
ElizabethPantley |
Well, that would likely result in lots
of tears. You could TRY a simple pick up and rock or sway.
If she still needs to nurse keep it VERY brief, then GR |
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13:21:24 |
leomom |
ok, thanks! |
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13:21:28 |
Spookygirl |
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13:21:32 |
Webmama_Tina |
Welcome to Mommy Chats' first ever
chat with author Elizabeth Pantley! Please do not post
unless it is your turn to ask a question. If you have a
question, please post a single ?" and you'll be added to the
queue. Have your question ready when your name is called." |
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13:21:36 |
ElizabethPantley |
Let me know how it goes! Next Q? |
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13:21:46 |
Spookygirl |
madawna your turn |
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13:21:51 |
madawna |
my 2 year old is waking every 15 mins
or so to nurse at night . She will not go to sleep without
nursing which makes it impossible for anyone else to get her
to sleep. She lacks self soothing skills in gen. Can you
give me any ideas for teaching her ? |
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13:21:58 |
madawna |
Thanks!! |
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13:22:21 |
ElizabethPantley |
Remember too that at any time if you
feel too frustrated to continue with the GR / PPO, just let
your little one nurse to sleep so that you can sleep too,
and try again next time she wakes up. Unless you have a
deadline, such as wanting to get pregnant or returning to
work, don’t feel you must succeed quickly. This process may
take some time. Be patient. |
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13:22:39 |
ElizabethPantley |
Oh, sweetie! Your story is a very
popular one -- you have lots of company.... |
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13:22:59 |
madawna |
I too have tried the GR and she flips
out. I am afraid I have wrecked the baby!"" |
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13:22:59 |
ElizabethPantley |
By 2 years a little one sure knows
what she wants, eh? |
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13:23:10 |
madawna |
:) |
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13:23:14 |
ElizabethPantley |
I'd work on the first falling asleep
of the night to set a pace for the rest of the night.... |
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13:23:29 |
Webmama_Tina |
Spookygirl is our qeue-keeper
today...she'll let you know when its your turn. :) |
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13:23:44 |
ElizabethPantley |
Change your bedtime routine. Nurse her
ON THE SOFA then bring her to the bedroom and read or tell
her stories in the dark. Let her have a sippy cup or paci if
she wants. |
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13:24:07 |
ElizabethPantley |
If the first falling asleep of the
night doesn't involve BF then you should see the night
waking fade quickly. |
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13:24:37 |
madawna |
ok... good idea. I am going to try
the bed beside the bed trick too. Thanks so much. LOVED
your book and look forward to the next! |
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13:24:42 |
ElizabethPantley |
Also, it's common for little ones to
want only Mommy at bedtime. It's a biological need. |
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13:24:58 |
ElizabethPantley |
Let me know how things progress. Good
luck! Next Q? |
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13:25:01 |
Spookygirl |
Brooke |
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13:25:06 |
brooke |
I've tried laying my 7 month old son
down when he's sleepy but awake. He is instantly WIDE
awake, snorting and frantic. I get this reaction when I put
him down asleep sometimes, too. he has a variety of ways to
go to sleep...nursing, rocking, jostling.. |
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13:25:25 |
ElizabethPantley |
Want everyone to know that I have lots
of book excerpts on my website that you can read for ideas.
ANd nice interviews with my Test Mommies too -- pantley.com |
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13:26:17 |
ElizabethPantley |
According to the National Sleep
Foundation’s 2004 Sleep in America poll of over 1400
parents.... |
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13:26:50 |
ElizabethPantley |
, parents and caregivers were asked if
the children put themselves to bed. In the toddler age group
less than 1% did, and among preschoolers 1% managed this
amazing feat. Only 12% of school-aged children put
themselves to bed. Little children need their parents at
bedtime. |
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13:27:15 |
ElizabethPantley |
That television scene we know so well:
parent tucks blanket around child, parent kisses child’s
forehead and says goodnight, shuts the light, and leaves the
room. Child smiles, closes eyes and goes to sleep. You know,
that scene? Pure fantasy. Unrealistic, But..... |
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13:28:15 |
ElizabethPantley |
If you create a gentle, loving,
consistent bedtime routine you can down the time you need to
stay with your child. If he knows he gets back rubs, pats,
songs, he will accept bedtime easier... also.... |
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13:28:36 |
ElizabethPantley |
If you don’t already use it I would
use white noise (or lullaby music) for falling asleep. You
can even leave it on for an entire nap and even all night
(think of how peaceful it is when a fan or heater is running
all night.) Use a bubbling fish tank, a fan/heater or a
white noise machine. (check out homedics)… |
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13:28:47 |
ElizabethPantley |
Does that help some?? |
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13:29:09 |
brooke |
Well, we do have a routine (bath, PJs
nurse rock, etc.) |
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13:29:26 |
brooke |
I just introduced a fan, just because
our house is tiny and every noise flows into his room |
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13:29:36 |
ElizabethPantley |
Make sure that during the routine the
lights are dimmed and the room is quiet except for the fan
(white noise) |
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13:30:10 |
ElizabethPantley |
Right now he anticiates your leaving
and fights sleep. Make the room and process welcoming for
sleep... |
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13:30:22 |
brooke |
Ok. My husband is really good putting
him down the first time (asleep, of course), but I'm having
major trouble getting him back down when he wakes in the
night. I just don't want to be up longer by repeatedly
trying to put him down awake |
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13:30:35 |
ElizabethPantley |
A great white noise machine is the one
by Homedics (bubbling brook, rain, etc.) also |
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13:31:06 |
ElizabethPantley |
A great lovey is a stuffed bear with a
mother's womb recording (noise and motion acitivated!!)
called Slumber Bear. Anything like this can help that
separation. |
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13:31:34 |
ElizabethPantley |
If you make a plan and follow it for
every night waking you should see progress. Let me know!
Next Q? |
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13:31:42 |
Spookygirl |
JGNPortland is next |
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13:31:50 |
jgnportland |
I have a chest sleeping baby who is 5
months old (I'm typing with one hand right now in fact). We
have been working on moving him to his crib by starting him
in his moses basket in our bed which we hope will allow us
to move his basket to his room next. |
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13:32:00 |
jgnportland |
We’ve also just started using white
noise for the entire night. |
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13:32:12 |
jgnportland |
My struggle is with napping during the
day. When I try the same things that work so well at night,
he wakes up within minutes and won't go back to sleep for a
couple of hours even if I hold him |
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13:32:22 |
jgnportland |
But, if I sit still and hold him he’ll
take a couple of short naps and at least one long nap each
day. Any suggestions for how to help him carry his comfort
with the basket into the daytime? |
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13:32:33 |
ElizabethPantley |
Oh if I had a nickle for every parent
with a chest-sleeping baby who's written to me in sleep
deprived desperation I'd be a very rich woman!!!! |
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13:32:43 |
Webmama_Tina |
lol |
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13:33:08 |
ElizabethPantley |
The whilte noise, the Slumber bear,
the Gentle Removal (if you are breastfeeding). .... |
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13:33:30 |
jgnportland |
I am breastfeeding, but he falls
asleep while we rock or walk him. |
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13:33:40 |
jgnportland |
Thanks goodness we don't have that to
work through too! |
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13:33:43 |
ElizabethPantley |
Also, try putting him down but as you
do place pressure on him with your hand. Maybe even a little
jibble. Also.... |
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13:34:04 |
ElizabethPantley |
Try swaddling him for sleep. Newborns
often sleep much longer and deeper when tightly swaddled. |
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13:34:40 |
ElizabethPantley |
Here's an idea that has worked for
many reluctant sleepers. Bring your stroller in the house.
Walk your baby around for until he falls asleep. (You can
even just roll back and forth, over a lump" like a doorway -
relaxing for a baby.) When your baby falls asleep, park it
near you. If he starts to move about or make noises walk and
bounce him. Once he gets used to taking a longer nap than
you can make the transition to bed." |
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13:35:04 |
jgnportland |
Oh, I forgot to mention that we still
have to swaddle him. Although he self-soothes with his
fingers so we have to swaddle him with hands out but arms
tucked. That's another struggle because as soon as his arms
are loose -night or day- he's back up. |
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13:35:53 |
jgnportland |
Sometimes he'll fall asleep in the
sling, but he's never slept well in the stroller or swing or
bouncer chair. |
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13:36:09 |
ElizabethPantley |
You can keep swaddling but leave his
arms out, or even just one arm (alternate). A crib jiggler
devise can work, or a rocking cradle. |
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13:37:00 |
ElizabethPantley |
Putting your baby down when he's
sleepy and humming, shhhhing and patting can sometimes work
-- with that firm pressure I mentioned earlier. |
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13:37:05 |
Webmama_Tina |
Welcome to Mommy Chats' first ever
chat with author Elizabeth Pantley! Please do not post
unless it is your turn to ask a question. If you have a
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13:37:14 |
jgnportland |
Okay, thank you. |
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13:37:27 |
ElizabethPantley |
All those ideas together can be used
to create a 'plan' that you can follow to get better sleep. |
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13:37:34 |
ElizabethPantley |
Best of luck! Next Q? |
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13:37:41 |
Spookygirl |
scubamom, your turn |
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13:38:00 |
Spookygirl |
I think we lost scubamom |
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13:38:10 |
Spookygirl |
schroedc go ahead |
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13:38:12 |
Webmama_Tina |
woops |
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13:38:19 |
schroedc |
We've been working on your ideas for
almost 2 months. Now after nursing to sleep Anna will wait
till morning to nurse most nights but she still wakes up
every two or three hours and it can take forever to put her
to sleep other ways. she's 2. |
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13:38:23 |
ElizabethPantley |
An important point for everyone: Sleep
should happen immediately when your baby shows signs of
tiredness. If you wait too long, she becomes overtired and
unable to sleep…. |
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13:38:26 |
Spookygirl |
if scubamom comes back, I will slip
her into the queue |
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13:38:49 |
ElizabethPantley |
Now that's a new question :banghead |
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13:39:01 |
Webmama_Tina |
lol |
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13:39:05 |
ElizabethPantley |
Kidding!! It's one of the most common
ones I hear!!!! |
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13:39:38 |
ElizabethPantley |
Nightwaking... Ug. .... The one that
is so hard for us parents to handle!!! |
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13:40:06 |
ElizabethPantley |
Here are a bunch of tips... Remember
that sleep is like a puzzle -- there are usually lots of
pieces to solve, but if you put them all together you'll get
better sleep. |
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13:40:19 |
ElizabethPantley |
Tip 1 Make sure your baby gets good
daily naps but not too close to bedtime. |
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13:40:31 |
ElizabethPantley |
You with me still, schroedc??? |
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13:40:36 |
schroedc |
still with you |
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13:40:42 |
schroedc |
waiting anxiously for some sleep |
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13:40:49 |
schroedc |
magically |
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13:40:53 |
ElizabethPantley |
I understand that feeling!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
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13:41:23 |
ElizabethPantley |
Create your sleep plan. Even if you
have identified your sleep issues, you really need to create
a follow a plan before anything will change. If you just
implement a few scattered ideas you won't see the success
you will see if you take the time to write out a very
specific sleep plan. |
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13:42:01 |
ElizabethPantley |
White noise or music drowns out noise
that may otherwise wake your baby and creates a very strong
“sleep cue” nad you can keep it running all night. |
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13:42:07 |
schroedc |
we do have and follow a sleep plan.
it's weaning the rocking/holding/singing that cane take 2 or
3 hours that we're having a hard time with. maybe i need to
revise? |
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13:42:31 |
ElizabethPantley |
Make sure there’s some
tire-the-baby-out time – running, jumping, laughing –
followed by an hour or so of wind-down time (book reading,
story telling, quiet cuddles) can help set the scene for a
good night's sleep. |
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13:42:57 |
ElizabethPantley |
Make sure the room is dark during
sleep. Cover the windows any way you can – even a piece of
cardboard or aluminum foil. Some babies are very sensitive
to light and it wakes them up. If you use a night light, use
a very tiny one and make sure it isn’t in direct sight of
your baby. |
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13:43:11 |
ElizabethPantley |
When your baby wakes during the night
make sure you don't act" too awake. Don't talk, sing or
anything other than to say "Shhh. Night Night." Avoid fast
movement, avoid any lights, avoid unnecessary diaper
changes, be very sleepy. EVEN IF YOUR BABY IS ACTING
WAKEFUL! Be VERY boring! Teach your baby that nighttime is
not playtime." |
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13:43:24 |
ElizabethPantley |
One other idea here, if you have a
baby who is up for an extended period in the middle of the
night it’s very possible that hunger is the reason, so a
middle of the night feeding or light snack is in order. |
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13:43:37 |
schroedc |
even at 2? |
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13:43:44 |
schroedc |
years old |
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13:44:11 |
ElizabethPantley |
At two your little one should have a
before-bed snack and leave a sippy cup of water bed-side.
She should be able to go all night with out eating. |
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13:44:57 |
schroedc |
i was thinking about pretending to be
asleep all night long except to maybe sling my arm on her
back but i guess this might be tramautic. i'm desperate. |
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13:44:59 |
ElizabethPantley |
Be consistent whenever she wakes up.
Just a simple Shhhh. Shhhh. Night time. You have to tire
yourself out for a week or two to get good results. |
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13:45:17 |
ElizabethPantley |
Hey -- if that works for you - others
parents have done it!!! |
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13:45:35 |
schroedc |
okay. thanks. |
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13:45:49 |
ElizabethPantley |
Remember the puzzle idea -- you need a
plan with all the pieces. Keep me posted! Next Q? |
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13:45:56 |
Spookygirl |
I have a 2 1/2 year old daughter. We
were going through the process of getting her to sleep on
her own, not nursing to sleep and to sleep in her own space,
as I was pregnant and wanted to get this done before the new
baby came. She was to the point of cuddling to sleep most
nights, and we used a phrase, Time for night-night" and she
would roll into her crib that is sidecared on my bed, and go
to sleep with some patting. I lost the baby last month, and
everything went all to heck, and we went back to nursing to
sleep and sleeping very close. I was able to get her back to
the phrase working to get her to go into her crib, but when
she wakes at night she wants to be close, sleeping on my
head..." |
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13:46:06 |
Spookygirl |
I know I am writing a novel, just let
me finish, LOL! |
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13:46:12 |
Spookygirl |
it's good to be a mod, LOL |
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13:46:44 |
Spookygirl |
and holding my face. I want to
transisition her to a toddler bed, should I work on one
problem at a time, her own space then her own bed, or do it
all at once? |
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13:46:55 |
ElizabethPantley |
Oh sweetie. My heart hurts for you. I
lost two before my first -- then went on to have four babies
in a row. This is a tough time for you and your family. Give
sleep issues a rest for a month or so then go on with a good
sleep plan. |
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13:47:29 |
Spookygirl |
I won't be starting it tomorrow, no
worries, I just wanted to pick your brain while I have it ;) |
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13:47:29 |
ElizabethPantley |
When YOU are ready, and you decide
exactly what you want to do, then you need to make a
complete plan. |
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13:48:05 |
ElizabethPantley |
It may help to set up a bed in her
room that's big enough for both of you. Parent her to sleep,
then go to your own room. |
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13:48:22 |
ElizabethPantley |
When she wakes in the night, bounce
her back to her bed, help her fall back to sleep, then go
back to your own bed |
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13:48:28 |
ElizabethPantley |
As many times as it takes! |
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13:48:34 |
ElizabethPantley |
Eventually she'll stay in her bed. |
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13:48:41 |
Webmama_Tina |
15minute warning....only 15minutes
left in the chat... |
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13:48:48 |
brooke |
? |
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13:48:52 |
ElizabethPantley |
Remember all the other stuff too --
dark, white noise, comfy bed, etc. |
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13:48:52 |
Spookygirl |
She did very well with many of the
suggestions from your NCSS book, I can't wait for the
toddler book!! |
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13:49:11 |
Webmama_Tina |
unless elizabeth wants to extend
it...its up to you. :) |
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13:49:13 |
ElizabethPantley |
If you need help before June emal me
and I'll share a few tips from NCSSTP |
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13:49:25 |
Spookygirl |
Brooke is the last one in the queue so
we should be good |
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13:49:34 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok cool |
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13:49:40 |
Spookygirl |
Thank you so much! |
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13:49:55 |
ElizabethPantley |
I already did a one hour radio show in
NYC this morning at 5 AM my time!!! And my fingers are
getting tired. We'll go till 11:05 - Ok, all? Next Q |
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13:49:56 |
brooke |
My son wakes at 6 a.m., no matter what
time he goes down. Last week, we had a good string of 7
a.m. wakings, but back to 6 this week. How do I reset his
clock? |
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13:49:59 |
Spookygirl |
Like I said, it's not something I am
planning right away, we are all still dealing with
everything |
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13:50:11 |
Webmama_Tina |
no worries, elizabeth. :) |
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13:50:31 |
ElizabethPantley |
Oh, I love this question -- cuz it's
one of the easiest ones to answer :) |
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13:50:37 |
brooke |
GOOD! |
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13:50:52 |
ElizabethPantley |
Here come some tips for that early
riser...... |
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13:50:57 |
brooke |
as long as the answer isn't it can't
be done. LOL! |
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13:52:27 |
ElizabethPantley |
One of the common reasons for early
waking is simply that your child has had enough sleep! Take
a good look at the sleep chart in my book, and add up your
child’s night and nap hours of sleep. If your two-year-old
is napping for two hours and then getting an average amount
of hours of sleep at nighttime, that would be 11 night sleep
hours. If she is going to bed at 7:00 P.M., guess what?
Eleven hours later…it’s 6:00 A.M.! (Remember, too that
“early” has a different definition for everyone; many people
arise at 5:00 A.M. or even before that, without considering
it too early.) |
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13:52:59 |
ElizabethPantley |
Here are a few things that might be
waking her up - and some tips on how to change things |
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13:53:08 |
ElizabethPantley |
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13:53:26 |
ElizabethPantley |
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13:53:42 |
ElizabethPantley |
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13:53:55 |
ElizabethPantley |
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13:54:06 |
ElizabethPantley |
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13:54:21 |
ElizabethPantley |
Those tips should buy you another hour
or so in the morning. But also..... |
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13:54:43 |
ElizabethPantley |
about 10% to 15% actually have a
biological tendency to wake early. In that case..... |
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13:55:02 |
ElizabethPantley |
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13:55:18 |
ElizabethPantley |
Hope that helps!!! Is there another
Question from anyone??? |
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13:55:38 |
Spookygirl |
That was the last one in the |
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13:56:04 |
ElizabethPantley |
I'll post a few general tips, and if
anyone has a final question you can pop in... |
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13:56:29 |
ElizabethPantley |
Remember that naptime sleep affects
night sleep and night sleep affects naps. So do everything
you can to help your baby nap. As nights get better naps
will too, and vice versa! |
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13:56:34 |
Webmama_Tina |
great! |
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13:56:36 |
leomom |
i just want to say thank you so much
for taking your time to chat with us! |
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13:56:43 |
schroedc |
i'm a single mother and Anna's dad has
begun putting ehr to bed one night a week. After that, it's
really hard to get her back to the regular bedtime again (he
follows our routine but can't get her to sleep as early as I
can nursing). |
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13:56:48 |
schroedc |
Sorry to ask another question |
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13:56:54 |
ElizabethPantley |
You're very welcome :bday: |
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13:57:12 |
lmartinez001 |
Can I pop one in too? |
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13:57:51 |
ElizabethPantley |
Having two households and two routines
is a challenge at first. But children are adaptable. Try to
get Daddy to stick to your nap./sleep/feed schedule if
possible. If not, your little one will adjust to the two
routines if you stay true to your own. |
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13:58:11 |
ElizabethPantley |
OK martinez - go ahead |
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13:58:14 |
schroedc |
thanks. he actually does come to our
house which helps some. |
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13:58:35 |
ElizabethPantley |
Just be patient. You'll all work out
the details over the next few months. |
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13:58:49 |
lmartinez001 |
We have a 4 month old that sleeps w/
me in our bed. He wakes every 2-3 hours during the night
and has never been a good sleeper - day or night. We will
soon be putting together a sleep plan and want to transition
him to the crib. Should we do this toge |
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13:59:43 |
ElizabethPantley |
You can do it whatever way works for
you. Some people do one thing at a time (takes longer) some
jump in and change everything at once (harder, but quicker).
Depends on your goals and your patience. Either way can
work. |
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14:00:06 |
lmartinez001 |
thanks |
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14:00:19 |
ElizabethPantley |
:) We have time for one more
question. Anyone? |
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14:00:40 |
ElizabethPantley |
If you haven't yet - take the time to
read the interviews with some of the original Test Mommies
on my web site -- lots of good tips and encouragement there!
(And cute pictures, too!) http://www.pantley.com/elizabeth/content/interviews/testmommies.htm |
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14:01:27 |
ElizabethPantley |
Also -- I'll be adding photos of more
sleeping NCSS babies on my website over the next month. If
you have a sleeping baby photo you'd like to share please
email it to me via my website. http://www.pantley.com |
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14:02:25 |
Sandrine |
I have a ? can I still ask?? |
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14:02:35 |
ElizabethPantley |
Sure! |
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14:03:02 |
Webmama_Tina |
after the chat, stick around for a
couple minutes to hear more about mommychats.com |
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14:03:08 |
Webmama_Tina |
:) |
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14:03:39 |
Sandrine |
DD2 is now 2 and when we put her to
bed, she talk(gibberish) for about 1hrs. Her bedtime is
about 7:30ish and by 9pm she is still talking, is there a
way to get her to sleep faster?? She does sleep late in the
morning. So maybe I should complain too much. |
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14:03:57 |
Sandrine |
I shouldn't complain too much.. |
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14:04:20 |
ElizabethPantley |
If she's not crying or complaining let
her be. She's obviously having a good time and figured out
how to have quality alone time. Good for her! She's unique
and it will be a great skill for her. |
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14:04:48 |
ElizabethPantley |
Also, though, make sure her
nap/sleep/meal schedule is right so that she isn't napping
too much and not tired at bedtime. |
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14:04:53 |
Sandrine |
:D Most time it's funny to hear her
talk to herslef. she baby's her rabbit and we hear shhhh.
lol |
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14:05:02 |
ElizabethPantley |
And add some white noise, music or
stories on tape to help her relax. |
|
14:05:11 |
Sandrine |
Or her telling him NO NO!! |
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14:05:19 |
ElizabethPantley |
She sounds adorable :) |
|
14:05:28 |
Sandrine |
We have white noise. |
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14:05:32 |
Sandrine |
She is. |
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14:06:03 |
Sandrine |
Stories on tape,hmmm I should into
that. She loves to read. |
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14:06:11 |
Sandrine |
should look... |
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14:06:15 |
ElizabethPantley |
She just may enjoy that!! If anyone
wants updates and newsletters from me in the future please
sign up at my website. |
|
14:06:28 |
ElizabethPantley |
And… Always remember this most
important point when it comes to taking care of your child:
Do what works for your family. There are no “rules” about
babies. No matter what any expert says -- even me! -- it
is most important that you follow your own heart and do what
works best for you and your baby. I’m sending Big Hugs to
all of you and to your sweet babies too. Sweet dreams…. |
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14:06:37 |
Webmama_Tina |
Thankyou SOOO much elizabeth!!! this
was great!! |
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14:06:44 |
Sandrine |
Thanks you. |
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14:06:49 |
Spookygirl |
Thank you! |
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14:06:51 |
brooke |
Thanks! |
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14:07:00 |
Webmama_Tina |
i look forward to having you again! |
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14:07:12 |
ElizabethPantley |
It was fun. Take care everyone.
Hugs....... |
