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1st Chat With Author Elizabeth Pantley
http://www.pantley.com/elizabeth/
2/15/05

30 mamas in attendance!

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13:04:53 Webmama_Tina Welcome to our first ever chat with author Elizabeth Pantley!
13:05:24 Webmama_Tina elizabeth, why don't you go ahead and introduce yourself...i know we are all chomping at the bit to get going. :)
13:05:59 ElizabethPantley Hi everyone! I'm the author of many parenting books including The No-Cry Sleep Solution (Now in 15 languages!) I have a new book coming out in June...
13:06:02 Webmama_Tina don't mind me as i post some notices here and there for newcomers and just info for the group....just keep on going. :)
13:06:07 ElizabethPantley The No-Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers and Preschoolers.
13:06:38 ElizabethPantley AND I'ma Mom of four wonderful children -- see our new family photo at www.pantley.com .    Today...we talk about sleep. Let's jump right in with the first question. Mod?
13:06:39 Webmama_Tina and when you are done with your intro, just say something like ready for my first question" and spookygirl will tell you who's first"
13:07:03 Spookygirl And the cute pic you put in the wonderful books you donated for my book club :)
13:07:20 ElizabethPantley Glad you enjoyed the pic :o)
13:07:32 ElizabethPantley First question?""
13:07:33 Spookygirl Cassies Mama is first
13:07:36 Cassie_s_Mama What suggestions do you have for transitioning a two and a half toddler to her own bed? She generally falls asleep with me, then we transfer her to her own bed, but i'd like for her to be able to lay down by herself before I have another baby!
13:07:48 Spookygirl Good one!
13:07:49 ElizabethPantley A very very very popular question!
13:07:56 madawna ?
13:08:00 Cassie_s_Mama thank you!!
13:08:18 ElizabethPantley Here are some tips (a little sneak preview from The NCSS for Toddlers :0 ...
13:08:59 ElizabethPantley Before we move on to the gentle ideas to move a child to independent sleep, let’s make sure this is what you want to do. Here are some questions to consider
13:09:14 ElizabethPantley
13:09:29 ElizabethPantley
13:09:56 ElizabethPantley When you decide it's time to move your child to independent sleep -- Try not to waver
13:10:10 ElizabethPantley If you feel good about this change, if you feel that the time is right, then you will convey your confidence to your child through your words and actions.
13:10:34 ElizabethPantley Set up a plan for change, write it down, and follow your plan every night.
13:10:53 ElizabethPantley You can, if you choose, do it in stages if you'd like....
13:11:28 ElizabethPantley set up a second bed next to yours – it could be a crib, toddler bed, mattress or futon. Begin by putting it right next to your bed. Then over a period of days or weeks even move the little bed away from yours.
13:11:49 ElizabethPantley once your child is comfortable in his bed you can move it to a different bedroom.
13:12:11 Webmama_Tina Welcome to Mommy Chat's first chat with author Elizabeth Pantley! Please post a single ?" if you have a question, to get added to the qeue."
13:12:15 ElizabethPantley It's OK to stay and parent your child" to sleep. Almost all toddlers require some parent's help to get settled."
13:12:41 ElizabethPantley A best bet for a new bed for a newly independent sleeper is a mattress on the floor. It’s nice and safe (no fear of big falls) and gives your child the freedom to get up and down easily.
13:13:03 ElizabethPantley Done gradually and with love a family-bed child can love his new sleeping place.    Next Q?
13:13:04 brooke ?
13:13:12 jgnportland ?
13:13:12 Spookygirl Leomom is next, got you Brooke
13:13:14 Cassie_s_Mama thank you!
13:13:32 scubamom ?
13:13:40 Spookygirl got you all
13:13:42 ElizabethPantley You're welcome Cassies Mommy
13:13:46 Spookygirl Leomom, are you typing?
13:13:52 Webmama_Tina At this time, please keep all side conversations to private message (PM). To PM someone, please double click their name in the user list to the right (in purple). Clicking their name in the main window will only paste their name into the chat.
13:14:05 schroedc ?
13:14:19 Webmama_Tina Please do not post unless it is your turn to ask a question. If you have a question, please post a single ?" and you'll be added to the queue. Have your question ready when your name is called."
13:14:23 Spookygirl Last call for Leomom?
13:14:37 leomom oh, sorry!  i thought you meant next after someoe!
13:14:45 Webmama_Tina lol no worries
13:14:49 Spookygirl no, it's your turn now hun!
13:15:10 leomom ok..dd just got over a cold and was waking to nurse every hour..now she is in that habit...how can i gently get her out of it wihoout crying?
13:15:26 leomom she's 5 months
13:15:28 ElizabethPantley Yes, you can. This is a verrrry common issue...
13:15:31 Webmama_Tina Spookygirl is our qeue-keeper today...so when she says its your turn....go for it! :)
13:16:01 ElizabethPantley Babies are creatures of habit -- and nursing to sleep is the best habit their is! (And sorry - the hardest to change...) Here's some tips....
13:16:26 ElizabethPantley This are helpful for ANY baby hooked on nursing to sleep. How about a show of hands? Who has a baby who nurses to sleep???
13:16:45 leomom me of course
13:16:53 leomom :)
13:16:57 dornback me too
13:17:02 sarahariz raises hand
13:17:10 jknielsen raising hand
13:17:12 brooke me, sometimes
13:17:20 schroedc Me
13:17:27 sunshine Me too
13:17:28 mom2radata me
13:17:28 madawna me too!
13:17:40 Webmama_Tina used to...when she was nursing (she's 4 now)
13:17:49 ElizabethPantley As you can see.  This is a verrrry common issue...
13:18:16 ElizabethPantley I was there with my 4th baby Coleton when he was a12 months old -- that's why my book was born!!!
13:18:23 ElizabethPantley “Pantley’s Gentle Removal” plan may be an important key for you. Instead of feeding your baby until she’s totally asleep, take her off the breast when she is done actively drinking and doing that sleepy fluttery start/stop sucking – that’s just for pacifying. Your baby should NOT be sound asleep when you remove her, because then he has a strong association to sleeping with the nipple in her mouth and she’ll be looking for it all night!   And……
13:18:58 ElizabethPantley Stay with it – sometimes it takes 6-10 tries before your baby will fall asleep, but after a few days of consistent GR it will take 5-7 times, then 4 times,  then one wonderful day, your baby will fall asleep after the first removal! Some babies are more persistent than others – they don’t want to give up such a wonderful sleep-aid (can’t blame ‘em!), so be patient but persistent!
13:19:08 leomom i do use that for naps from your book..but at ngiht, she's already asleep as soon as i put her on the breast?
13:19:36 ElizabethPantley Also, as the GR begins to work it's a good idea to Pull Off sooner and sooner in the process, and one day your baby will surprise you by pulling off on his own. But to get there consistency on your part is important…..
13:19:46 leomom she cries, i pick her up, go to feed her, she sucks a few times and is out like a light for an hour or so
13:19:57 ElizabethPantley If you’ve tried this, but the GR hasn’t been working, try using a quicker more confident break with your finger. If you are sitting and nursing her, immediately move her up to your chest and hold her snugly while you swing/sway/swish/pat/shh or otherwise comfort her. If you are lying beside her, use the quick release, and then shift your breasts away from her face (turn on your tummy) while patting, rubbing or whatever soothes her.
13:20:20 ElizabethPantley You see? She's not hungry -- just needs the feel of the nipple in her mouth.
13:20:36 leomom so should i skip the nipple all together?
13:21:10 ElizabethPantley Well, that would likely result in lots of tears.  You could TRY a simple pick up and rock or sway. If she still needs to nurse keep it VERY brief, then GR
13:21:24 leomom ok, thanks!
13:21:28 Spookygirl ?
13:21:32 Webmama_Tina Welcome to Mommy Chats' first ever chat with author Elizabeth Pantley! Please do not post unless it is your turn to ask a question. If you have a question, please post a single ?" and you'll be added to the queue. Have your question ready when your name is called."
13:21:36 ElizabethPantley Let me know how it goes!   Next Q?
13:21:46 Spookygirl madawna your turn
13:21:51 madawna my 2 year old is waking every 15 mins or so to nurse at night .  She will not go to sleep without nursing which makes it impossible for anyone else to get her to sleep. She lacks self soothing skills in gen. Can you give me any ideas for teaching her ?
13:21:58 madawna Thanks!!
13:22:21 ElizabethPantley Remember too that at any time if you feel too frustrated to continue with the GR / PPO, just let your little one nurse to sleep so that you can sleep too, and try again next time she wakes up. Unless you have a deadline, such as wanting to get pregnant or returning to work, don’t feel you must succeed quickly. This process may take some time. Be patient.
13:22:39 ElizabethPantley Oh, sweetie! Your story is a very popular one -- you have lots of company....
13:22:59 madawna I too have tried the GR and she flips out.  I am afraid I have wrecked the baby!""
13:22:59 ElizabethPantley By 2 years a little one sure knows what she wants, eh?
13:23:10 madawna :)
13:23:14 ElizabethPantley I'd work on the first falling asleep of the night to set a pace for the rest of the night....
13:23:29 Webmama_Tina Spookygirl is our qeue-keeper today...she'll let you know when its your turn. :)
13:23:44 ElizabethPantley Change your bedtime routine. Nurse her ON THE SOFA then bring her to the bedroom and read or tell her stories in the dark. Let her have a sippy cup or paci if she wants.
13:24:07 ElizabethPantley If the first falling asleep of the night doesn't involve BF then you should see the night waking fade quickly.
13:24:37 madawna ok... good idea.  I am going to try the bed beside the bed trick too.  Thanks so much.  LOVED your book and look forward to the next!
13:24:42 ElizabethPantley Also, it's common for little ones to want only Mommy at bedtime. It's a biological need.
13:24:58 ElizabethPantley Let me know how things progress. Good luck! Next Q?
13:25:01 Spookygirl Brooke
13:25:06 brooke I've tried laying my 7 month old son down when he's sleepy but awake.  He is instantly WIDE awake, snorting and frantic.  I get this reaction when I put him down asleep sometimes, too.  he has a variety of ways to go to sleep...nursing, rocking, jostling..
13:25:25 ElizabethPantley Want everyone to know that I have lots of book excerpts on my website that you can read for ideas. ANd nice interviews with my Test Mommies too -- pantley.com
13:26:17 ElizabethPantley According to the National Sleep Foundation’s 2004 Sleep in America poll of over 1400 parents....
13:26:50 ElizabethPantley , parents and caregivers were asked if the children put themselves to bed. In the toddler age group less than 1% did, and among preschoolers 1% managed this amazing feat. Only 12% of school-aged children put themselves to bed.  Little children need their parents at bedtime.
13:27:15 ElizabethPantley That television scene we know so well: parent tucks blanket around child, parent kisses child’s forehead and says goodnight, shuts the light, and leaves the room. Child smiles, closes eyes and goes to sleep. You know, that scene? Pure fantasy. Unrealistic,   But.....
13:28:15 ElizabethPantley If you create a gentle, loving, consistent bedtime routine you can down the time you need to stay with your child. If he knows he gets back rubs, pats, songs, he will accept bedtime easier... also....
13:28:36 ElizabethPantley If you don’t already use it I would use white noise (or lullaby music) for falling asleep. You can even leave it on for an entire nap and even all night (think of how peaceful it is when a fan or heater is running all night.) Use a bubbling fish tank, a fan/heater or a white noise machine. (check out homedics)…
13:28:47 ElizabethPantley Does that help some??
13:29:09 brooke Well, we do have a routine (bath, PJs nurse rock, etc.)
13:29:26 brooke I just introduced a fan, just because our house is tiny and every noise flows into his room
13:29:36 ElizabethPantley Make sure that during the routine the lights are dimmed and the room is quiet except for the fan (white noise)
13:30:10 ElizabethPantley Right now he anticiates your leaving and fights sleep. Make the room and process welcoming for sleep...
13:30:22 brooke Ok.  My husband is really good putting him down the first time (asleep, of course), but I'm having major trouble getting him back down when he wakes in the night.  I just don't want to be up longer by repeatedly trying to put him down awake
13:30:35 ElizabethPantley A great white noise machine is the one by Homedics (bubbling brook, rain, etc.) also
13:31:06 ElizabethPantley A great lovey is a stuffed bear with a mother's womb recording (noise and motion acitivated!!) called Slumber Bear. Anything like this can help that separation.
13:31:34 ElizabethPantley If you make a plan and follow it for every night waking you should see progress. Let me know!  Next Q?
13:31:42 Spookygirl JGNPortland is next
13:31:50 jgnportland I have a chest sleeping baby who is 5 months old (I'm typing with one hand right now in fact).  We have been working on moving him to his crib by starting him in his moses basket in our bed which we hope will allow us to move his basket to his room next.
13:32:00 jgnportland We’ve also just started using white noise for the entire night.
13:32:12 jgnportland My struggle is with napping during the day.  When I try the same things that work so well at night, he wakes up within minutes and won't go back to sleep for a couple of hours even if I hold him
13:32:22 jgnportland But, if I sit still and hold him he’ll take a couple of short naps and at least one long nap each day.   Any suggestions for how to help him carry his comfort with the basket into the daytime?
13:32:33 ElizabethPantley Oh if I had a nickle for every parent with a chest-sleeping baby who's written to me in sleep deprived desperation I'd be a very rich woman!!!!
13:32:43 Webmama_Tina lol
13:33:08 ElizabethPantley The whilte noise, the Slumber bear, the Gentle Removal (if you are breastfeeding). ....
13:33:30 jgnportland I am breastfeeding, but he falls asleep while we rock or walk him.
13:33:40 jgnportland Thanks goodness we don't have that to work through too!
13:33:43 ElizabethPantley Also, try putting him down but as you do place pressure on him with your hand. Maybe even a little jibble. Also....
13:34:04 ElizabethPantley Try swaddling him for sleep. Newborns often sleep much longer and deeper when tightly swaddled.
13:34:40 ElizabethPantley Here's an idea that has worked for many reluctant sleepers. Bring your stroller in the house. Walk your baby around for until he falls asleep. (You can even just roll back and forth, over a lump" like a doorway - relaxing for a baby.) When your baby falls asleep, park it near you. If he starts to move about or make noises walk and bounce him. Once he gets used to taking a longer nap than you can make the transition to bed."
13:35:04 jgnportland Oh, I forgot to mention that we still have to swaddle him.  Although he self-soothes with his fingers so we have to swaddle him with hands out but arms tucked.  That's another struggle because as soon as his arms are loose -night or day- he's back up.
13:35:53 jgnportland Sometimes he'll fall asleep in the sling, but he's never slept well in the stroller or swing or bouncer chair.
13:36:09 ElizabethPantley You can keep swaddling but leave his arms out, or even just one arm (alternate). A crib jiggler devise can work, or a rocking cradle.
13:37:00 ElizabethPantley Putting your baby down when he's sleepy and humming, shhhhing and patting can sometimes work -- with that firm pressure I mentioned earlier.
13:37:05 Webmama_Tina Welcome to Mommy Chats' first ever chat with author Elizabeth Pantley! Please do not post unless it is your turn to ask a question. If you have a question, please post a single ?" and you'll be added to the queue. Have your question ready when your name is called."
13:37:14 jgnportland Okay, thank you.
13:37:27 ElizabethPantley All those ideas together can be used to create a 'plan' that you can follow to get better sleep.
13:37:34 ElizabethPantley Best of luck!  Next Q?
13:37:41 Spookygirl scubamom, your turn
13:38:00 Spookygirl I think we lost scubamom
13:38:10 Spookygirl schroedc go ahead
13:38:12 Webmama_Tina woops
13:38:19 schroedc We've been working on your ideas for almost 2 months. Now after nursing to sleep Anna will wait till morning to nurse most nights but she still wakes up every two or three hours and  it can take forever to put her to sleep other ways. she's 2.
13:38:23 ElizabethPantley An important point for everyone: Sleep should happen immediately when your baby shows signs of tiredness. If you wait too long, she becomes overtired and unable to sleep….
13:38:26 Spookygirl if scubamom comes back, I will slip her into the queue
13:38:49 ElizabethPantley Now that's a new question  :banghead
13:39:01 Webmama_Tina lol
13:39:05 ElizabethPantley Kidding!! It's one of the most common ones I hear!!!!
13:39:38 ElizabethPantley Nightwaking... Ug. .... The one that is so hard for us parents to handle!!!
13:40:06 ElizabethPantley Here are a bunch of tips... Remember that sleep is like a puzzle -- there are usually lots of pieces to solve, but if you put them all together you'll get better sleep.
13:40:19 ElizabethPantley Tip 1  Make sure your baby gets good daily naps but not too close to bedtime.
13:40:31 ElizabethPantley You with me still, schroedc???
13:40:36 schroedc still with you
13:40:42 schroedc waiting anxiously for some sleep
13:40:49 schroedc magically
13:40:53 ElizabethPantley I understand that feeling!!!!!!!!!!!!!
13:41:23 ElizabethPantley Create your sleep plan. Even if you have identified your sleep issues, you really need to create a follow a plan before anything will change. If you just implement a few scattered ideas you won't see the success you will see if you take the time to write out a very specific sleep plan.
13:42:01 ElizabethPantley White noise or music drowns out noise that may otherwise wake your baby and creates a very strong “sleep cue”  nad you can keep it running all night.
13:42:07 schroedc we do have and follow a sleep plan. it's weaning the rocking/holding/singing that cane take 2 or 3 hours that we're having a hard time with. maybe i need to revise?
13:42:31 ElizabethPantley Make sure there’s some tire-the-baby-out time – running, jumping, laughing – followed by an hour or so of wind-down time (book reading, story telling, quiet cuddles) can help set the scene for a good night's sleep.
13:42:57 ElizabethPantley Make sure the room is dark during sleep. Cover the windows any way you can – even a piece of cardboard or aluminum foil. Some babies are very sensitive to light and it wakes them up. If you use a night light, use a very tiny one and make sure it isn’t in direct sight of your baby.
13:43:11 ElizabethPantley When your baby wakes during the night make sure you don't act" too awake. Don't talk, sing or anything other than to say "Shhh. Night Night." Avoid fast movement, avoid any lights, avoid unnecessary diaper changes, be very sleepy. EVEN IF YOUR BABY IS ACTING WAKEFUL! Be VERY boring! Teach your baby that nighttime is not playtime."
13:43:24 ElizabethPantley One other idea here, if you have a baby who is up for an extended period in the middle of the night it’s very possible that hunger is the reason, so a middle of the night feeding or light snack is in order.
13:43:37 schroedc even at 2?
13:43:44 schroedc years old
13:44:11 ElizabethPantley At two your little one should have a before-bed snack and leave a sippy cup of water bed-side. She should be able to go all night with out eating.
13:44:57 schroedc i was thinking about pretending to be asleep all night long except to maybe sling my arm on her back but i guess this might be tramautic. i'm desperate.
13:44:59 ElizabethPantley Be consistent whenever she wakes up. Just a simple Shhhh. Shhhh. Night  time. You have to tire yourself out for a week or two to get good results.
13:45:17 ElizabethPantley Hey -- if that works for you - others parents have done it!!!
13:45:35 schroedc okay. thanks.
13:45:49 ElizabethPantley Remember the puzzle idea -- you need a plan with all the pieces. Keep me posted! Next Q?
13:45:56 Spookygirl I have a 2 1/2 year old daughter. We were going through the process of getting her to sleep on her own, not nursing to sleep and to sleep in her own space, as I was pregnant and wanted to get this done before the new baby came. She was to the point of cuddling to sleep most nights, and we used a phrase, Time for night-night" and she would roll into her crib that is sidecared on my bed, and go to sleep with some patting.  I lost the baby last month, and everything went all to heck, and we went back to nursing to sleep and sleeping very close. I was able to get her back to the phrase working to get her to go into her crib, but when she wakes at night she wants to be close, sleeping on my head..."
13:46:06 Spookygirl I know I am writing a novel, just let me finish, LOL!
13:46:12 Spookygirl it's good to be a mod, LOL
13:46:44 Spookygirl and holding my face. I want to transisition her to a toddler bed, should I work on one problem at a time, her own space then her own bed, or do it all at once?
13:46:55 ElizabethPantley Oh sweetie. My heart hurts for you. I lost two before my first -- then went on to have four babies in a row. This is a tough time for you and your family. Give sleep issues a rest for a month or so then go on with a good sleep plan.
13:47:29 Spookygirl I won't be starting it tomorrow, no worries, I just wanted to pick your brain while I have it ;)
13:47:29 ElizabethPantley When YOU are ready, and you decide exactly what you want to do, then you need to make a complete plan.
13:48:05 ElizabethPantley It may help to set up a bed in her room that's big enough for both of you. Parent her to sleep, then go to your own room.
13:48:22 ElizabethPantley When she wakes in the night, bounce her back to her bed, help her fall back to sleep, then go back to your own bed
13:48:28 ElizabethPantley As many times as it takes!
13:48:34 ElizabethPantley Eventually she'll stay in her bed.
13:48:41 Webmama_Tina 15minute warning....only 15minutes left in the chat...
13:48:48 brooke ?
13:48:52 ElizabethPantley Remember all the other stuff too -- dark, white noise, comfy bed, etc.
13:48:52 Spookygirl She did very well with many of the suggestions from your NCSS book, I can't wait for the toddler book!!
13:49:11 Webmama_Tina unless elizabeth wants to extend it...its up to you. :)
13:49:13 ElizabethPantley If you need help before June emal me and I'll share a few tips from NCSSTP
13:49:25 Spookygirl Brooke is the last one in the queue so we should be good
13:49:34 Webmama_Tina ok cool
13:49:40 Spookygirl Thank you so much!
13:49:55 ElizabethPantley I already did a one hour radio show in NYC this morning at 5 AM my time!!! And my fingers are getting tired. We'll go till 11:05 - Ok, all?  Next Q
13:49:56 brooke My son wakes at 6 a.m., no matter what time he goes down.  Last week, we had a good string of 7 a.m. wakings, but back to 6 this week.  How do I reset his clock?
13:49:59 Spookygirl Like I said, it's not something I am planning right away, we are all still dealing with everything
13:50:11 Webmama_Tina no worries, elizabeth. :)
13:50:31 ElizabethPantley Oh, I love this question -- cuz it's one of the easiest ones to answer  :)
13:50:37 brooke GOOD!
13:50:52 ElizabethPantley Here come some tips for that early riser......
13:50:57 brooke as long as the answer isn't it can't be done.  LOL!
13:52:27 ElizabethPantley One of the common reasons for early waking is simply that your child has had enough sleep! Take a good look at the sleep chart in my book, and add up your child’s night and nap hours of sleep. If your two-year-old is napping for two hours and then getting an average amount of hours of sleep at nighttime, that would be 11 night sleep hours. If she is going to bed at 7:00 P.M., guess what? Eleven hours later…it’s 6:00 A.M.! (Remember, too that “early” has a different definition for everyone; many people arise at 5:00 A.M. or even before that, without considering it too early.)
13:52:59 ElizabethPantley Here are a few things that might be waking her up - and some tips on how to change things
13:53:08 ElizabethPantley
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13:54:21 ElizabethPantley Those tips should buy you another hour or so in the morning. But also.....
13:54:43 ElizabethPantley about 10% to 15% actually have a biological tendency to wake early. In that case.....
13:55:02 ElizabethPantley
13:55:18 ElizabethPantley Hope that helps!!! Is there another Question from anyone???
13:55:38 Spookygirl That was the last one in the 
13:56:04 ElizabethPantley I'll post a few general tips, and if anyone has a final question you can pop in...
13:56:29 ElizabethPantley Remember  that naptime sleep affects night sleep and night sleep affects naps. So do everything you can to help your baby nap. As nights get better naps will too, and vice versa!
13:56:34 Webmama_Tina great!
13:56:36 leomom i just want to say thank you so much for taking your time to chat with us!
13:56:43 schroedc i'm a single mother and Anna's dad has begun putting ehr to bed one night a week. After that, it's really hard to get her back to the regular bedtime again (he follows our routine but can't get her to sleep as early as I can nursing).
13:56:48 schroedc Sorry to ask another question
13:56:54 ElizabethPantley You're very welcome  :bday:
13:57:12 lmartinez001 Can I pop one in too?
13:57:51 ElizabethPantley Having two households and two routines is a challenge at first. But children are adaptable. Try to get Daddy to stick to your nap./sleep/feed schedule if possible. If not, your little one will adjust to the two routines if you stay true to your own.
13:58:11 ElizabethPantley OK martinez - go ahead
13:58:14 schroedc thanks. he actually does come to our house which helps some.
13:58:35 ElizabethPantley Just be patient. You'll all work out the details over the next few months.
13:58:49 lmartinez001 We have a 4 month old that sleeps w/ me in our bed.  He wakes every 2-3 hours during the night and has never been a good sleeper - day or night.  We will soon be putting together a sleep plan and want to transition him to the crib.  Should we do this toge
13:59:43 ElizabethPantley You can do it whatever way works for you. Some people do one thing at a time (takes longer) some jump in and change everything at once (harder, but quicker). Depends on your goals and your patience. Either way can work.
14:00:06 lmartinez001 thanks
14:00:19 ElizabethPantley :)  We have time for one more question. Anyone?
14:00:40 ElizabethPantley If you haven't yet - take the time to read the interviews with some of the original Test Mommies on my web site -- lots of good tips and encouragement there! (And cute pictures, too!) http://www.pantley.com/elizabeth/content/interviews/testmommies.htm
14:01:27 ElizabethPantley Also -- I'll be adding photos of more sleeping NCSS babies on my website over the next month. If you have a sleeping baby photo you'd like to share please email it to me via my website.  http://www.pantley.com
14:02:25 Sandrine I have a ? can I still ask??
14:02:35 ElizabethPantley Sure!
14:03:02 Webmama_Tina after the chat, stick around for a couple minutes to hear more about mommychats.com
14:03:08 Webmama_Tina :)
14:03:39 Sandrine DD2 is now 2 and when we put her to bed, she talk(gibberish) for about 1hrs. Her bedtime is about 7:30ish and by 9pm she is still talking, is there a way to get her to sleep faster?? She does sleep late in the morning. So maybe I should complain too much.
14:03:57 Sandrine I shouldn't complain too much..
14:04:20 ElizabethPantley If she's not crying or complaining let her be. She's obviously having a good time and figured out how to have quality alone time. Good for her! She's unique and it will be a great skill for her.
14:04:48 ElizabethPantley Also, though, make sure her nap/sleep/meal schedule is right so that she isn't napping too much and not tired at bedtime.
14:04:53 Sandrine :D  Most time it's funny to hear her talk to herslef. she baby's her rabbit and we hear shhhh. lol
14:05:02 ElizabethPantley And add some white noise, music or stories on tape to help her relax.
14:05:11 Sandrine Or her telling him NO NO!!
14:05:19 ElizabethPantley She sounds adorable :)
14:05:28 Sandrine We have white noise.
14:05:32 Sandrine She is.
14:06:03 Sandrine Stories on tape,hmmm I should into that. She loves to read.
14:06:11 Sandrine should look...
14:06:15 ElizabethPantley She just may enjoy that!! If anyone wants updates and newsletters from me in the future please sign up at my website.
14:06:28 ElizabethPantley And… Always remember this most important point when it comes to taking care of your child: Do what works for your family. There are no “rules” about babies. No matter what any expert says  -- even me!  -- it is most important that you follow your own heart and do what works best for you and your baby. I’m sending Big Hugs to all of you and to your sweet babies too. Sweet dreams….
14:06:37 Webmama_Tina Thankyou SOOO much elizabeth!!! this was great!!
14:06:44 Sandrine Thanks you.
14:06:49 Spookygirl Thank you!
14:06:51 brooke Thanks!
14:07:00 Webmama_Tina i look forward to having you again!
14:07:12 ElizabethPantley It was fun. Take care everyone. Hugs.......

 

 

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