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13:04:53 |
Webmama_Tina |
Welcome to our first ever chat with
author Elizabeth Pantley! |
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13:05:24 |
Webmama_Tina |
elizabeth, why don't you go ahead and
introduce yourself...i know we are all chomping at the bit
to get going. :) |
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13:05:59 |
ElizabethPantley |
Hi everyone! I'm the author of many
parenting books including The No-Cry Sleep Solution (Now in
15 languages!) I have a new book coming out in June... |
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13:06:02 |
Webmama_Tina |
don't mind me as i post some notices
here and there for newcomers and just info for the
group....just keep on going. :) |
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13:06:07 |
ElizabethPantley |
The No-Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers
and Preschoolers. |
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13:06:38 |
ElizabethPantley |
AND I'ma Mom of four wonderful
children -- see our new family photo at
www.pantley.com .
Today...we talk about sleep. Let's jump right in with the
first question. Mod? |
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13:06:39 |
Webmama_Tina |
and when you are done with your intro,
just say something like ready for my first question" and
spookygirl will tell you who's first" |
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13:07:03 |
Spookygirl |
And the cute pic you put in the
wonderful books you donated for my book club :) |
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13:07:20 |
ElizabethPantley |
Glad you enjoyed the pic :o) |
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13:07:32 |
ElizabethPantley |
First question?"" |
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13:07:33 |
Spookygirl |
Cassies Mama is first |
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13:07:36 |
Cassie_s_Mama |
What suggestions do you have for
transitioning a two and a half toddler to her own bed? She
generally falls asleep with me, then we transfer her to her
own bed, but i'd like for her to be able to lay down by
herself before I have another baby! |
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13:07:48 |
Spookygirl |
Good one! |
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13:07:49 |
ElizabethPantley |
A very very very popular question! |
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13:07:56 |
madawna |
? |
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13:08:00 |
Cassie_s_Mama |
thank you!! |
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13:08:18 |
ElizabethPantley |
Here are some tips (a little sneak
preview from The NCSS for Toddlers :0 ... |
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13:08:59 |
ElizabethPantley |
Before we move on to the gentle ideas
to move a child to independent sleep, let’s make sure this
is what you want to do. Here are some questions to consider |
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13:09:14 |
ElizabethPantley |
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13:09:29 |
ElizabethPantley |
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13:09:56 |
ElizabethPantley |
When you decide it's time to move your
child to independent sleep -- Try not to waver |
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13:10:10 |
ElizabethPantley |
If you feel good about this change, if
you feel that the time is right, then you will convey your
confidence to your child through your words and actions. |
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13:10:34 |
ElizabethPantley |
Set up a plan for change, write it
down, and follow your plan every night. |
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13:10:53 |
ElizabethPantley |
You can, if you choose, do it in
stages if you'd like.... |
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13:11:28 |
ElizabethPantley |
set up a second bed next to yours – it
could be a crib, toddler bed, mattress or futon. Begin by
putting it right next to your bed. Then over a period of
days or weeks even move the little bed away from yours. |
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13:11:49 |
ElizabethPantley |
once your child is comfortable in his
bed you can move it to a different bedroom. |
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13:12:11 |
Webmama_Tina |
Welcome to Mommy Chat's first chat
with author Elizabeth Pantley! Please post a single ?" if
you have a question, to get added to the qeue." |
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13:12:15 |
ElizabethPantley |
It's OK to stay and parent your child"
to sleep. Almost all toddlers require some parent's help to
get settled." |
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13:12:41 |
ElizabethPantley |
A best bet for a new bed for a newly
independent sleeper is a mattress on the floor. It’s nice
and safe (no fear of big falls) and gives your child the
freedom to get up and down easily. |
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13:13:03 |
ElizabethPantley |
Done gradually and with love a
family-bed child can love his new sleeping place. Next Q? |
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13:13:04 |
brooke |
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13:13:12 |
jgnportland |
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13:13:12 |
Spookygirl |
Leomom is next, got you Brooke |
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13:13:14 |
Cassie_s_Mama |
thank you! |
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13:13:32 |
scubamom |
? |
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13:13:40 |
Spookygirl |
got you all |
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13:13:42 |
ElizabethPantley |
You're welcome Cassies Mommy |
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13:13:46 |
Spookygirl |
Leomom, are you typing? |
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13:13:52 |
Webmama_Tina |
At this time, please keep all side
conversations to private message (PM). To PM someone, please
double click their name in the user list to the right (in
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13:14:05 |
schroedc |
? |
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13:14:19 |
Webmama_Tina |
Please do not post unless it is your
turn to ask a question. If you have a question, please post
a single ?" and you'll be added to the queue. Have your
question ready when your name is called." |
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13:14:23 |
Spookygirl |
Last call for Leomom? |
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13:14:37 |
leomom |
oh, sorry! i thought you meant next
after someoe! |
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13:14:45 |
Webmama_Tina |
lol no worries |
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13:14:49 |
Spookygirl |
no, it's your turn now hun! |
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13:15:10 |
leomom |
ok..dd just got over a cold and was
waking to nurse every hour..now she is in that habit...how
can i gently get her out of it wihoout crying? |
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13:15:26 |
leomom |
she's 5 months |
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13:15:28 |
ElizabethPantley |
Yes, you can. This is a verrrry common
issue... |
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13:15:31 |
Webmama_Tina |
Spookygirl is our qeue-keeper
today...so when she says its your turn....go for it! :) |
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13:16:01 |
ElizabethPantley |
Babies are creatures of habit -- and
nursing to sleep is the best habit their is! (And sorry -
the hardest to change...) Here's some tips.... |
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13:16:26 |
ElizabethPantley |
This are helpful for ANY baby hooked
on nursing to sleep. How about a show of hands? Who has a
baby who nurses to sleep??? |
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13:16:45 |
leomom |
me of course |
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13:16:53 |
leomom |
:) |
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13:16:57 |
dornback |
me too |
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13:17:02 |
sarahariz |
raises hand |
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13:17:10 |
jknielsen |
raising hand |
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13:17:12 |
brooke |
me, sometimes |
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13:17:20 |
schroedc |
Me |
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13:17:27 |
sunshine |
Me too |
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13:17:28 |
mom2radata |
me |
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13:17:28 |
madawna |
me too! |
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13:17:40 |
Webmama_Tina |
used to...when she was nursing (she's
4 now) |
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13:17:49 |
ElizabethPantley |
As you can see. This is a verrrry
common issue... |
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13:18:16 |
ElizabethPantley |
I was there with my 4th baby Coleton
when he was a12 months old -- that's why my book was born!!! |
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13:18:23 |
ElizabethPantley |
“Pantley’s Gentle Removal” plan may be
an important key for you. Instead of feeding your baby until
she’s totally asleep, take her off the breast when she is
done actively drinking and doing that sleepy fluttery
start/stop sucking – that’s just for pacifying. Your baby
should NOT be sound asleep when you remove her, because then
he has a strong association to sleeping with the nipple in
her mouth and she’ll be looking for it all night! And…… |
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13:18:58 |
ElizabethPantley |
Stay with it – sometimes it takes 6-10
tries before your baby will fall asleep, but after a few
days of consistent GR it will take 5-7 times, then 4 times,
then one wonderful day, your baby will fall asleep after the
first removal! Some babies are more persistent than others –
they don’t want to give up such a wonderful sleep-aid (can’t
blame ‘em!), so be patient but persistent! |
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13:19:08 |
leomom |
i do use that for naps from your
book..but at ngiht, she's already asleep as soon as i put
her on the breast? |
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13:19:36 |
ElizabethPantley |
Also, as the GR begins to work it's a
good idea to Pull Off sooner and sooner in the process, and
one day your baby will surprise you by pulling off on his
own. But to get there consistency on your part is
important….. |
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13:19:46 |
leomom |
she cries, i pick her up, go to feed
her, she sucks a few times and is out like a light for an
hour or so |
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13:19:57 |
ElizabethPantley |
If you’ve tried this, but the GR
hasn’t been working, try using a quicker more confident
break with your finger. If you are sitting and nursing her,
immediately move her up to your chest and hold her snugly
while you swing/sway/swish/pat/shh or otherwise comfort her.
If you are lying beside her, use the quick release, and then
shift your breasts away from her face (turn on your tummy)
while patting, rubbing or whatever soothes her. |
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13:20:20 |
ElizabethPantley |
You see? She's not hungry -- just
needs the feel of the nipple in her mouth. |
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13:20:36 |
leomom |
so should i skip the nipple all
together? |
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13:21:10 |
ElizabethPantley |
Well, that would likely result in lots
of tears. You could TRY a simple pick up and rock or sway.
If she still needs to nurse keep it VERY brief, then GR |
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13:21:24 |
leomom |
ok, thanks! |
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13:21:28 |
Spookygirl |
? |
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13:21:32 |
Webmama_Tina |
Welcome to Mommy Chats' first ever
chat with author Elizabeth Pantley! Please do not post
unless it is your turn to ask a question. If you have a
question, please post a single ?" and you'll be added to the
queue. Have your question ready when your name is called." |
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13:21:36 |
ElizabethPantley |
Let me know how it goes! Next Q? |
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13:21:46 |
Spookygirl |
madawna your turn |
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13:21:51 |
madawna |
my 2 year old is waking every 15 mins
or so to nurse at night . She will not go to sleep without
nursing which makes it impossible for anyone else to get her
to sleep. She lacks self soothing skills in gen. Can you
give me any ideas for teaching her ? |
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13:21:58 |
madawna |
Thanks!! |
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13:22:21 |
ElizabethPantley |
Remember too that at any time if you
feel too frustrated to continue with the GR / PPO, just let
your little one nurse to sleep so that you can sleep too,
and try again next time she wakes up. Unless you have a
deadline, such as wanting to get pregnant or returning to
work, don’t feel you must succeed quickly. This process may
take some time. Be patient. |
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13:22:39 |
ElizabethPantley |
Oh, sweetie! Your story is a very
popular one -- you have lots of company.... |
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13:22:59 |
madawna |
I too have tried the GR and she flips
out. I am afraid I have wrecked the baby!"" |
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13:22:59 |
ElizabethPantley |
By 2 years a little one sure knows
what she wants, eh? |
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13:23:10 |
madawna |
:) |
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13:23:14 |
ElizabethPantley |
I'd work on the first falling asleep
of the night to set a pace for the rest of the night.... |
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13:23:29 |
Webmama_Tina |
Spookygirl is our qeue-keeper
today...she'll let you know when its your turn. :) |
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13:23:44 |
ElizabethPantley |
Change your bedtime routine. Nurse her
ON THE SOFA then bring her to the bedroom and read or tell
her stories in the dark. Let her have a sippy cup or paci if
she wants. |
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13:24:07 |
ElizabethPantley |
If the first falling asleep of the
night doesn't involve BF then you should see the night
waking fade quickly. |
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13:24:37 |
madawna |
ok... good idea. I am going to try
the bed beside the bed trick too. Thanks so much. LOVED
your book and look forward to the next! |
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13:24:42 |
ElizabethPantley |
Also, it's common for little ones to
want only Mommy at bedtime. It's a biological need. |
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13:24:58 |
ElizabethPantley |
Let me know how things progress. Good
luck! Next Q? |
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13:25:01 |
Spookygirl |
Brooke |
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13:25:06 |
brooke |
I've tried laying my 7 month old son
down when he's sleepy but awake. He is instantly WIDE
awake, snorting and frantic. I get this reaction when I put
him down asleep sometimes, too. he has a variety of ways to
go to sleep...nursing, rocking, jostling.. |
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13:25:25 |
ElizabethPantley |
Want everyone to know that I have lots
of book excerpts on my website that you can read for ideas.
ANd nice interviews with my Test Mommies too -- pantley.com |
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13:26:17 |
ElizabethPantley |
According to the National Sleep
Foundation’s 2004 Sleep in America poll of over 1400
parents.... |
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13:26:50 |
ElizabethPantley |
, parents and caregivers were asked if
the children put themselves to bed. In the toddler age group
less than 1% did, and among preschoolers 1% managed this
amazing feat. Only 12% of school-aged children put
themselves to bed. Little children need their parents at
bedtime. |
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13:27:15 |
ElizabethPantley |
That television scene we know so well:
parent tucks blanket around child, parent kisses child’s
forehead and says goodnight, shuts the light, and leaves the
room. Child smiles, closes eyes and goes to sleep. You know,
that scene? Pure fantasy. Unrealistic, But..... |
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13:28:15 |
ElizabethPantley |
If you create a gentle, loving,
consistent bedtime routine you can down the time you need to
stay with your child. If he knows he gets back rubs, pats,
songs, he will accept bedtime easier... also.... |
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13:28:36 |
ElizabethPantley |
If you don’t already use it I would
use white noise (or lullaby music) for falling asleep. You
can even leave it on for an entire nap and even all night
(think of how peaceful it is when a fan or heater is running
all night.) Use a bubbling fish tank, a fan/heater or a
white noise machine. (check out homedics)… |
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